Hello my beauts! I hope your week has been treating you extremely well! I was wondering and thinking hard of what this blog post was going to be about, that’s why I am a little late posting this! I was thinking and thinking and finally came across this topic that had sparked my interest. When I look back at my 16 year old self or my years in highschool, there is so much that I would change in a heartbeat. I wish there was a letter that I could’ve read at that time by myself saying “hey do this” or “do not miss out on this opportunity” and so forth”. But unfortunately you can not change back time, but only move forward. If I had to write a letter for my 16 year old self, I would probably start of along the lines of this:
Dear 16 year old self,
Hey so you are in highschool, congrats you made it this far. Yeah you may have a lot of struggles through highschool but just make sure to keep your head and chin up. You are shy, we all know that, but don’t worry, you will slowly come out of your shell. I know that you are extremely uncomfortable trying new sports or joining new clubs but you know what? Just go for it! I really think that you should try to be committed to at least one sports team. You are going to feel super proud of yourself that you are apart of something that means something to you. Yeah I know you do not know too any people in your highschool, but that’s okay. You are new. You are new to this atmosphere, to this city, and to this highschool. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to fit in. Don’t be embarrassed that your sister is your only friend right now, it takes time. It takes time for someone who is so reserved to open up. Just wait. You will meet a great group of friends who will get to see your outgoing and bubbly side aside from your shy side. You know what I think you should do? I think in your next class try to say something like a “hello” to someone sitting beside you in class! What do you have to lose? I think by doing this, you will slowly start to come out of your shell and meet new people. I know for a fact that the sports team you joined will help you open up. You are going to meet so many new people and I think that is best for you! I know that when you are uncomfortable you like to quit things. I want you to make a promise to me not to quit this time. Sure you may feel awkward joining that club or team but I think you are going to thank yourself in the long run. This would be a great milestone for you, and you can brag to your kids later on in life how much you enjoyed that activity or sport.
Now 16 year old self, do not let boys get in the way of your friends. Trust me, if you put your boyfriend first you are going to lose all your friends. You really need to sit down and think of who means more to you. Does your boyfriend, a guy who can come and go, mean more than your friends, who could be there for you forever? This is a really hard question to answer but I have faith in you that you are going to make the right choice. Boys come with drama, and I really do not want you to become sick over a guy. Take a mental note. If you end up getting yourself into a relationship make a check list. List the pros and cons of this guy. Does he really make you truly happy? Do you think about him constantly? Oh sorry I forgot to mention this! Does your family like him? I know you’re stubborn but if they do not like the guy chances are for good reasons. I know that you are a beautiful girl inside and out. You need to make sure you understand this! You hear me? If a guy can not see how funny, caring and sensitive you are, the he deserves to be let go. You need to realize that you deserve a guy who is not going to screw you over. You need to make sure that he brings out the best in you. Sure you may get into your arguments, and that is normal. But if he is constantly making you unhappy, then do yourself a favour and say goodbye to him. There is no reason for you to get sick and throwup over this guy. You deserve better, and he doesn’t deserve a second chance. I know that you may think it’ll get better with this guy, but chances are it won’t. Take the high road. You owe it to yourself. Remember that.
Sorry I know I am completely nagging you, and I can be a pain in the ass, but there are other things I want you to read about. You need to realize that there are always going to be those negative people in life who try to bring you down. Bullies do exist. I know you are probably thinking that it won’t happen to you, but just have your guards up okay? If someone does try to mess around with you and bring you down, just know that you are better than that. I know how you are. If someone brings you down it ruins your day right? Try to just brush it off because in the long run, they are only just one person. One person who has nothing better to do then to see you miserable. I am not trying to scare you by any means at all about highschool. Enjoy it. Throw away that negative energy those people give off, and focus on your growth and development. I know you are a happy person, and people enjoy seeing you smile. You do not want to dread your highschool experience do you? I didn’t think so. I also wanted to emphasize the importance of you going to class. Try not to skip too much okay? Education is so important and even though you do not realize this at the time, you will thank yourself later on. I know you do not like doing your school work or doing those presentations, but just try your best okay? I know when you put your mind to it, you can be a really hard worker , so I am going to push you. You want those amazing marks to get into university or college right? Only 4 years then you are moving onto the next chapter within your life. Stop growing up will you? Im kidding. I know you are a good student, I am only saying what I think is best for you.
I promise I am not going to nag your ear off, I am almost done I swear! Let’s talk about you always being anxious and a worry wart. I really think that you shouldn’t brush these feelings to the side lyss! Did you talk to your mom about all this?Emphasize that this is really bugging you? I think maybe you will feel better if you figure out why you are so anxious all the time. But in the mean time, try to take some big deep breaths. I know everything is new to you. New atmosphere, new people to be around, new hometown, new school to attend and so forth. But before you start stressing about all of this, do one thing at a time. Try to think positively about life, and think of something you are grateful for each day. This will help with your mood swings and your anxiety. Hey you are alive right? I am really proud of you, did I ever tell you that? I think you need to stop being so hard on yourself about every little thing in life. I think you should just sit back, pat yourself on the back, and think about all your accomplishments in life. You have accomplished so much, yet I do not think you see that. Stop and think. You are only on this earth for a short period of time, be someone who your kids will look up to.
Well bye for now 16 year old self! I know you will make all the right choices as I have a lot of faith in you. Be proud of who you are okay? There’s only one of you in this world.
Much love xo
Alyssa.
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