Miss Full Day Kindergarten- “Having a Strong Passion”

Miss Full Day Kindergarten- “Having a Strong Passion”

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Hello my beauts, I hope you are all doing well and fantastic. I have been going through a lot lately with some ups and downs, hence why the limited blogging sessions. I will eventually write a few blogs about what I have been going through but I want to spice things up with a more positive blog post today.  You know when you get so bored of social media, especially on Instagram and are always looking for more people to follow? Or you get tired of following the same people and get bored looking at the same kind of posts each day? One day while I was going through this on Facebook and scrolling down on my newsfeed, I had noticed that a girl I went to highschool with, Shelise Aulthouse, posted a status stating that she created a Facebook page as well as an Instagram page on her career path and what she brings as an ECE into her classroom. As an individual who always wanted to be a teacher but changed career paths, I always will have a strong passion towards children and caring for them. This post intrigued me and made me more interested to go check this page out for myself. When I clicked on the link and opened up the page “Miss Full Day Kindergarten” appeared in big letters at the beginning of the page, and I knew just from the title that I would find it fascinating.  Usually when you click on pages and read through articles discussing education and what happens inside the classroom you get bored or tired of reading the same thing. In order for a child to want to learn they need to be intrigued and their attention needs to be grabbed as soon as they walk inside the classroom. Often, students see the same things in each classroom. First, you have the desks, the carpet space each child has to stay on, the shelf full of used or damaged books from other kids, toys that are 10 years old and so forth… you get the picture. The environment and learning atmosphere that a child is a part of needs to all in all be “spiced up”, and that is exactly what Shelise has done.

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While browsing through her Facebook page she has created, you are welcomed and shown numerous ideas on how to make the classroom more exciting for children to be a part of. It takes a lot of creativity and a strong imagination to capture the attention of young children especially little kindergarteners! After walking through numerous schools and checking out the different classrooms, I have never seen one as original as Shelise’s. Children need an environment to grow from, and to have fun while learning new things.

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How cute is this library setup? I mean come on, logs as seats? It really does not get much cooler than that! Children even have pillows to get comfy while reading, even a stuffed elephant to cuddle with. Often children are welcomed to a boring, cold, blue mat that they are expected to sit on while the teacher reads them a story. Don’t you want to be cozy and comfortable? No wonder it is so hard to keep the children on the mat as teachers read to them, hell I would not want to be on there either! Cutting up tree stumps to make seats for the children is a fantastic idea! Not only is this a fun seat to sit on, but it allows the children to see all different creative ways to make things, like seats!

“The classroom environment is one of my favourite things to plan out! ” explains Shelise, as she goes on to discuss her lovely atmosphere inside her classroom. I know what you are thinking! Yes I had the privilege of interviewing Shelise and asking her a few questions on her journey of becoming “Miss Full day Kindergarten“.

Shelise states, “I spend all my time in the classroom so it was just as important for me to have a cozy, inviting, home-like room as it is for the children. The classroom environment is like the “third-teacher”. I design the room to invite and enhance the children’s learning while encouraging communication and inquiry. Sure it is easy to put blocks on a shelf, crayons in a cup and a rug in the library – but why not use tree cookies as blocks, sort the crayons by colour in coloured bamboo cups and place a grass like fuzzy rug to read on!”

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Shelise simply goes on to explain just exactly how she plans her classroom environment.

With having experience now, I base the classroom environment off of how the children have responded to it in previous years. While all children are different it’s a good starting point to set up the classroom a way that worked for the children the previous year. Of course, the classroom will change off of your children’s needs many times throughout the year. I love natural elements – it is very calming for both me and the children! I am a Pinterest junky so I tend to find myself there looking for ideas as well as Facebook groups for Kindergarten Educators!”

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There is no doubt about it that Shelise takes that extra time out of her day to ensure her students have a wonderful atmosphere to grow and learn in. While scrolling through Shelise’s Instagram and Facebook page, one question jumped out at me. What made her want to create “Miss Full Day Kindergarten” as a social media page? Shelise states, “I have always been interested in any form of blogging – YouTube, blogs, Instagram and Facebook pages“. She goes on to explain that it  wasn’t until recently she began following other teacher blogs and Instagram/Facebook pages. Shelise states, “ I love the idea of being able to share with others. I want to share my passion and ideas for Full Day Kindergarten and through photos and posts I can accomplish that on social media!” I could not agree more with her statements. I think that her page will inspire so many other future educators and teachers about different learning environments and maybe even teaching methods as well. Since our world is more social media based, and a lot of individuals are using the internet to find information, this was an excellent idea!

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So I know there are numerous questions that I had to ask Shelise especially when it came to her schooling and the process of becoming an ECE. I know that in university, I was personally not the book worm type and struggled to stay focused within my studies but not Shelise! Throughout university,  Shelise has always been committed to her books and her studies. “My parents and most of my family never had the chance to further their education after high school so for me it was really important to focus on my studies and want I wanted to do“, states Shelise.  On her journey to become an ECE, Shelise stated that she had taken a 2 year dipolma program for Early Childhood Education at Mohawk College. While in this program, Shelise could not express and emphasize how much it prepares you for the real world while in the career path as an ECE.  “It is very hands on in the classroom followed with intensive studies on aspects like child development and behaviour, inclusion, and parent teacher-child relationships”. 

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Finding the right career path can be extremely challenging, especially for individuals as young as ourselves. Having the right determination and dedication towards something is very important and working for it is key. Although you may find yourself in a program that eventually you become disinterested in, do not give up. Shelise goes on to explain that she did not know what she wanted to be in life! It was not until her grade 12th year that she finally considered the Early Childhood Education Program. Even then individuals may still feel uncertain about the choices they are making or the career paths they choose to go with. Shelise states, “It was my second year of college during my placement in a Full Day Kindergarten classroom that I fully realised that this is what I wanted to do”  ….. and look at her now. Following her dreams and trusting her instincts, Shelise is a role model to other ECE’s who are in the same path as she is.

I have always loved working with children! Whether it was babysitting or children in the family, my mom always said that children “gravitated” towards me. I was lucky enough to have some wonderful teachers in my early years of education so that definitely had an impact on my decision as well. My initial plan was to study bachelor of education and go to teacher’s college – but of course I went down a different path!” , states Shelise.

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(To welcome her kinders back, Shelise made up some yummy healthy treats made from apples and cream cheese. What a wonderful idea!)

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“Are there any inspirational messages as a teacher that you try to give to your students?”

Since my students are only 4 and 5 years old (some even start off the school year at 3!) positivity is key! Seeing the children as being capable and independent allows them to feel trusted and unstoppable! I always encourage my kids to try something new and to not be afraid. It is okay to make mistakes and I want them to share their ideas and wonders. I am amazed everyday of what my Kinder’s are capable of and my hope in sharing my journey as Miss Full Day Kindergarten allows for others to see too!” States Shelise.

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Best advice someone has given you before entering the ECE/teaching industry that you took with you?”

Shelise- “For me I think I have learned my own lessons along the way and would tell anyone entering the field of education – be flexible, be kind, don’t be afraid to ask questions, never ever stop learning, treat the children like they are your own and LOVE what you do”.

I could not thank Shelise enough for letting me ask her a few questions on her journey as “Miss Full Day Kindergarten”! If you have not checked out her pages already be sure to do so and follow for more exciting posts to come!

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If more ECE’s were as enthusiastic and driven as Shelise is towards her little kinders, school would be much more exciting for children!

Thanks for reading my blog beauts, I hope you enjoyed this one as much as I enjoyed writing it! Be sure to follow my social media accounts for more blogs to come:

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The “need to know” basics for applying eyeshadow (Natural Look)

The “need to know” basics for applying eyeshadow (Natural Look)

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Hello my beauts and happy Friday! Thank goodness it is the weekend, time to party and relax at the same time. I am sorry I have been MIA the past week, I have been dealing with a family crisis that happened on  Sunday, September 18th. My step mom Kayla was in a horrific car crash where she was hit head-on by a one tonne pick up truck towing a wood chipper.  The impact was so severe that it took firefighters almost an hour to get her out of the car where she lost half of her blood supply.  She died but they were able to miraculously bring her back.  She has undergone at least 20 hours of surgeries in the past week and there will be many, many more surgeries to follow.  The doctors are in awe that she is still with us. She had her jaw broken in four places, her nose broken, her pelvis shattered, her diaphragm as well, her hip bone was sheered off, both legs broken, both ankles, one foot had to be reattached.  They’re not even sure if she’ll ever walk again.
It has been touch and go with all of the injuries and operations she has had to endure.
My dad, her fiancee has been by her side every step of the way and wishes to continue to do so. This is where we need your help.  With Kayla in the hospital and my dad  by her side, they have no income coming in. We are not trying to be greedy by any means, but if people could help to raise some money so that my dad can stay by her side, it would be so greatly appreciated.  The love and support Kayla and my dad have received has been overwhelming, and from the bottom of our hearts, we thank each and every one of you.
We will keep everyone updated as to Kayla’s progress as we continue down this long road to recovery. If you do wish to donate please visit https://www.gofundme.com/2qre83fg. Anything is greatly appreciated, god bless.

So now that you all know where my mindset has been for the past week, I decided to do a makeup blog this week on how to apply eyeshadow, and pretty much the basic & easy steps to follow. A friend of mine had reached out to me and requested this blog post to help her out. When applying eyeshadow, it can be a difficult process, especially if you are not used to wearing makeup a lot or simply you are new to it. Over the past years, I have self-taught myself researching makeup tutorials on youtube and other social media sites. By no means am I saying this is the correct way to apply eyeshadow or this is the only way, this is simply how I personally apply eyeshadow. I think this process is a very simple and easy one to follow, as I include pictures down below as well. I have not edited the makeup shots of my face and eyes just to show you beauts the true colour of the palettes that I have used within this tutorial. I included two different palettes that could be very beneficial for you guys to use, but feel free to explore and find one you love! I personally had to go with my all time favourite “Kat Von D Shade and Light Eye Palette” where you can purchase at Sephora for $35.00, which really is not bad at all considering the pigmentation is unreal. You can also use this other palette that I purchased at Sephora as well by Smashbox called the “full exposure palette”, and I usually always use the cream colours and the light browns.

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(Smashbox Full Exposure Palette)

So first before applying any eyeshadow I ensure that I have applied some sort of an eyelid primer. Here let me show you guys the difference between my two eyes; one with primer on the right and the one without primer on the left.

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As you can see, the eyelid on the right has a more yellow pigmentation to it which allows my eyeshadow to stay on better and the pigmentation from the eyeshadow to show up better. Trust me, you will for sure want to use a primer. I am still in love with my Kat Von D High Voltage eyelid Primer where you can purchase at Sephora for $25.00. Totally worth it.

Now that you have primed both eyelids you can move onto the eyeshadow. First I like to use my Kat Von D palette and go in with this cream colour shade, which I use as my base shade.

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This beautiful cream colour is super subtle and also looks very gentle for the natural look we are going for today. I apply this colour all over the entire lid with my small eyeshadow brush that I purchased at Sephora for around $20.00. Now I know what you are thinking, what number is the brush called and so forth blah blah blah. Honestly, I am not too big on specific brushes that I use for my makeup, as long as it gets the job done. But for this first step, I do recommend a smaller and more dense brush.

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Once you have applied the cream shadow all over your lid, take a nice “taupe” or “light brown” eyeshadow within your palette and apply this to the outer corner of your lids. You are still going to be using the same brush as earlier, but you are only going to take small amounts of this eyeshadow to start. This helps ensure that you do not over do your look, as you want it to remain natural looking.

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How beautiful is this brown shade located in the Kat Von D palette?! It is such a neutral colour and allows you to build up your pigmentation if you desire to. I also highly recommend the NYX Taupe Eyeshadow which you can purchase at any Shoppers. I have used this product numerous times and it creates a nice and gentle look.

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As you can see, I simply made a triangle shape as I applied the taupe colour within the outer corner. Do not worry If your brown looks very harsh or messy, you are going to be blending the shadow with a fluffy brush afterwards.

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Now take your fluffy blending brush (purchased mine at Walmart) and start blending in the taupe nicely into the outer corners. I also take the taupe colour and apply it along the crease as well. This is simply the outer edge of the eye along your eyeball (trust me you will feel it). If you choose to do this step, be sure to take the time to blend this eyeshadow in nicely, if you rush it you will end up with a super harsh crease.You simply drag the taupe colour across your crease and let go just before your inner eye corner.

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Now that you have blended out any harsh spots, this is optional, but I always like to add some sort of a shimmer to my eyeshadow routine even if it is a more natural look. I like to go in with my Urban Decay Midnight Cowboy Eyeshadow and apply this within the middle of my eyelid. I do not apply this where the taupe colour is whatsoever, strictly within the middle of my lid.

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Now that you have applied all your eyeshadow on your lids you can go in with a gel liner to help make your eyes “pop” or “stand out”. Again, this is an optional step, but I highly recommend doing this! I simply use my gel liner brush from Sephora along with my Eye Studio Gel Liner by Maybelline (Purchased at Walmart) and apply this on along my upper lash line. You can choose how thick you want your line to be, but if you are creating a more natural look, I would recommend creating a thinner line.

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(Just look at the difference between the two eyes with and without the gel liner on top!)

After applying the gel liner, I then go in with my mascara and apply that all over my lashes. Right now I am using the Falsies Push Up Drama Mascara by Maybelline.

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Voila! You now have a flawless natural makeup look using the basic methods of applying eyeshadow. If you choose to, you can also line the bottom of your lashes with the taupe colour that you had previously used, and add some false lashes to spice up your natural look!

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If you do not really wear fake eyelashes, I highly recommend just buying a cheap pair, and I mean cheap (from the dollar store) and experimenting with them. I never used to wear false lashes but every time I go out for the night, I always have them on! I think they top off your makeup look and really make you look gorgeous! If you are interested in trying out some lashes seriously grab some at the dollar store. I always use my elf lashes and I literally buy them for $1.50 at the dollar store, and they still look flawless. There is noway in hell I will buy a $30.00 pair at Sephora when they look just as good for a cheaper price!

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I hope this blog eyeshadow tutorial helped you guys out! Please let me know if you have any questions or suggestions on what to write my next blog about. Be sure to follow my other social media sites as well:

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“You Owe It To Yourself”-What the hell is Self-Acceptance?

“You Owe It To Yourself”-What the hell is Self-Acceptance?

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Hey there beauts, I want you to pause and think for a moment… is your life perfect? Are you truly happy with yourself and who you are as an individual today? I know this may seem like an easy question to answer and does not have much thought but is it easy for you to answer? To be honest, being almost 23 years old,I do not think I could even answer this, not truthfully at least anyway. “Accepting yourself’ is much easier said than done. I do not think a lot of people within this world accept themselves for who they are as individuals, I know I am still learning how to accept myself, which is sad but it is reality. I know behind a computer I may seem bold, confident and with all my selfies I must adore myself right? Wrong.  Maybe I just love that one aspect of my body where the camera makes me look super thin, or maybe I just love the way the black and white filter highlights my cheekbones… but do I really love me for me? I have been struggling for many and I mean MANY years now with accepting who I am as an individual. I have questioned myself over and over again as to why I can not portray self-love and show it off to others. After searching for numerous years I have finally found an answer. It may not be the answer everyone is wanting to hear but I have found it, and that is being honest with yourself.  I did not want to be honest with myself for the longest time, in fact I was really trying to avoid writing this blog, but I knew that others may benefit from it or even take home a message from it. In previous blogs I have discussed the topics of anxiety, depression, eating disorders, body image and so forth. I wanted something different from this blog. In fact, I wanted the main message to be a combination of all of these topics.

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Behind some of my pictures on Instagram and other social media sites, you may see an extremely happy/confident girl, which is fairly accurate. I am an extremely happy person, but you do not hear the thoughts that are going through a person’s mind when you are glancing at their selfies or photographs. In the photograph up above what do you see? Some may see a black and white portrait, but I know I see someone who is struggling to keep down their dinner they had tonight due to an eating disorder that decided to come back and take over. And that is number one topic that I decided to be honest with myself, and that is my bad eating habits. I know in previous blogs I have discussed this topic and how it had gone away. I have come to the reality that I think this eating disorder is always going to be a part of me, but is not going to define who I am. I may think here and there about my weight issues but I am going to keep living each day to it’s fullest. I know some people are bothered and ashamed to admit that they may have this problem whether it be bulimia or anorexia, but it is something that should be talked about. Maybe this way, others such as younger audiences will be more educated on these serious illnesses. I am not ashamed to admit that I am both of these illnesses, and I am not ashamed that I am going to counselling to get this under control. I just knew that I could not pretend anymore that these disorders did not exist, I just had to be honest with myself.

Self- Acceptance is about finding positive vibes or positive energy and applying it to oneself to create “happy thoughts”.  In order to help create those happy thoughts, you owe it to yourself to be completely honest, like a heart to heart with you and your body/mind. I know for a fact I am never going to be a size 0 ever, or a size 1 …. it is not in my books. Even though I strive for that perfect, skinny, body type, I had to be honest with myself. Lyss, do you really want to give up chips, pop and all junk food pretty much everyday and are you committed to work out everyday? Oh hell no at least not at this very moment in time. I knew for a fact  that I pretty much could not give up pop , I have tried and tried but I don’t want to. So now what?  Well time to be honest with myself. Does eating those stuff occasionally make me happy? Yes. So why give something that makes you happy up for that size 0 body image? Even though I struggle with my size, I am still going to eat that piece of pie later and enjoy every bite, I just had to be honest with myself.

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……. and what about that “A” word… ya you know it, stupid anxiety. I could rant about it day in and day out but I won’t to save you some time.  Alright time to be honest with myself, are you ever truly going to get rid of this mental illness? Probably not. Have you been working on coping with it? Yes you have, and that is being honest with yourself. I know I may not be that social butterfly at the parties until I have had a few shots of tequila, or I may not be able to look you in the eyes for a long period of time when I am speaking but hey…. at least I have a voice, a quiet one but I do. I have come to terms that I will always be that “quiet type”, but in my books, that is ok.  Being quiet does not define who I am let alone anxiety. I still love to share my blog posts with hundreds of people including with my friends on Facebook, I can gather up the courage to go adventure out to the mall by myself and take my sweet ass time, and I can also dance my ass off with my best friend tequila…. and you know what…. that is OK. I may need a little extra help here and there when it comes to social events and socializing but at least I am being honest with myself. Are you?

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Even though you do not want to face your “flaws” or your “insecurities”… sooner or later you have to in order to find or help find self acceptance within yourself. Even though I am 23 years old and look like I have my shit together, I do not. Am I trying to get my shit together? Yes. How am I doing this? By accomplishing the first step…by being truly honest with who you are as an individual.  You owe it to yourself. These do not define who you are as an individual, but they help you accept who you are as a person… different from everyone else in your own unique way.

Thanks for the read my beauts, let me know if you guys enjoy these more personal blogs! Be sure to follow my page for my blog posts to come in the near future,

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“I Was That Crazy Girlfriend”- Storytime

“I Was That Crazy Girlfriend”- Storytime

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Hello my beauts, I hope you are all doing great and are having a terrific Friday so far! I decided to write a blog post this week dedicated to one of my storytime experiences. I absolutely love storytime youtube videos and laying back/relaxing and watching them. Whether it is embarrassing storytime experiences, funny ones, or just plain dumb ones I love them all. Let me know what you guys think about this storytime blog post, and if you guys would like me to come up with more !

Okay, so this storytime I absolutely had to share. I was looking up random youtube videos the other day and came across an “I was a crazy girlfriend” video. I thought to myself, hey…. I literally went through that psychotic phase once in my life and can truthfully say I was THAT girl. No,I am not saying that I am naturally a psychotic bitch, but what I can honestly say is that I was in numerous unhealthy relationships that made me grow into a psychotic bitch… and a big one at that. Looking back at these stories you literally stop and think to yourself, “what the hell was I thinking?”. First of all, if someone is making you turn into this ugly monster then why are you even with them? Only you know exactly who you are as an individual, and if some other person makes you turn into somebody you are not, you should know right away that that is a huge red flag. Unfortunately, being in my teens and immature at the time, I did not have smart mature Alyssa to say “Hello, wake the hell up!”. I experienced all this first hand and I can say I have been through hell and back when it came to guys and being in relationships. But hey… you learn from them.

The first storytime experience that I have to share with you guys is of course about one of my ex’s and past relationships. No, I am not going to bash this person, but at the time we both had young minds and were not that mature. I remember the relationship started off strong and amazing, but then we started butting heads. We could never see eye to eye on stuff, and he eventually grew into the party phase where I wasn’t at the time allowed to go to parties. He would always go out here and there to different parties and get hammered out of his face, whereas I would be at home wondering where he was, what he was doing, and who he was partying with. I used to absolutely hate him going to parties, and whenever he would let me know he was going to one, I would automatically freak out and explode on him. Eventually, he decided to hide the parties from me and make up excuses and lies that he was somewhere else. One night, I had a hint that he was going to go to a party so I had brought up the question to him if he was going or not. Of course, he denied it and said he was just hanging at his friend’s house. I had an idea of who he was going to the party with so what did I decide to do? I went onto his Facebook (knew his password) and pretended I was him. I messaged his friend asking if the party was still on for tonight. His friend I think knew that it was me for some reason, meanwhile, I thought I was the sneakiest bitch alive. My boyfriend at the time ended up messaging me flipping out that I was pretending to be him, which eventually caused an even bigger fight. First of all looking back on this, I do not think it is appropriate for your significant other to have all of your passwords to your private accounts that is just my opinion. Not necessarily that you are hiding things, just that is your own private space, and people such as my old psychotic self, are going to lurk the shit out of you… literally the shit out of you.

So needless to say, the relationship got even worse, and we literally went back and forth at each other for months.  Another incident that had happened was when we were at wonderland the one day. At the end of the night, he had left his phone in my mom’s car by accident when we dropped him off at home. What did I decide to do? Creep the shit out of it of course. This is another no-no. Do not lurk your boyfriend’s phone… ever. (Well I mean obviously sometimes, cause that is our job), but chances are you are going to take something the wrong way or see something you do not like. So as I am hardcore creeping, I come across a few messages between him and another girl. I keep on creeping and am overwhelmed at the amount of hate they are having that is geared toward ME. I am literally the hot topic of the conversation… my own boyfriend was bashing me. He kept going off how I was such a lurker and so forth and he was sick of it.  Yes, in all honesty, I should not have lurked that much, I obviously did not give him that trust.  After a while, that relationship ended.

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In my next storytime, I can honestly say this guy drove me insane… near the end of course. In my previous storytime I brought some of the problems upon myself, but this …. this guy made me the psychotic bitch I was. So in the beginning of the relationship things were all fine and dandy and the first few months were great! A couple months in however, we were at a community centre dance, he was hammered out of his face and I noticed he was texting a girl. I snuck a peak in and realized it was his ex-girlfriend. Did that sit well with me? OH hell no. I exploded. I mean come on, if you’re still into your ex then why are you with a new person… explain that to me. I was furious. I think that was the start to our rollercoaster of a relationship. There were numerous times where I was iffy about what he was doing and who he was chatting with. When it came to his first year of university, I was still in high school… well grade 13 as some may call it. Of course, I had the jitters about what girls he would be talking to and who he would be around with at university.  So I give him the benefit of the doubt and try as much as I can to trust him.  A week goes by and I stumble across a photo he was tagged in on Facebook (literally social media kills relationships), of him and his friend  having their arms around two blonde bombshells. I LOST it. First because… who they hell were these people. Second, it literally looked like one blonde babe for each guy, including my boyfriend.  What also did not help was he was literally one of the only guys in his program he had taken at University. Just my luck.  So obviously I was a little on edge about who he was talking to or texting.

I remember one time while we were hanging out at his friend’s house the one night (his friend by the way was a good looking muscle bodybuilder jacked type ok), his friend blurted out “Did Sarah (fake name) text you at all?”, he replied, “no why?”, the friend went on to say “Oh cause she really wanted your number to see what you were doing tonight”. By the way, this conversation all happened when I was chilling right there on the couch with them. You can probably guess what was going through my mind at that current second. First, this Sarah chick better not be one of those blonde bombshells in that picture he was tagged in. Second, why does she want to hang out with you at the bar tonight? I am sorry but that all seems a little bit sketched for my liking.  That was when I developed a little bit of a red flag towards this broad. She was always brought up in conversations about us when we were arguing with one another. She always seemed to cause one of our fights which was super annoying and frustrating. I remember the one time I was creeping her..that is what we do… and came across a picture of him and her at one of the university’s sports events. He was shirtless and she was painting him in the school colours…. that did not fly too well with me either. By this point, I was super unhappy, I was losing complete trust in this guy which made me all in all become literally a psychotic bitch.

I remember the final straw was when he had gotten into a car accident one day early in the morning. He had to drive each day bright and early for morning placements quite a distance aways. He had called me after he had gotten into the accident saying he refuses to drive to placement for a while because he was all shaken up which was understandable. I basically asked him where he was going to stay then and he mentioned that he was going to ask Sarah to stay at her place for the week up where the placement was located. Oh my god I literally lost my shit. I basically said you have got to be joking right? Like you’re kidding? He knew for a fact that I could not stand this girl whatsoever and for good reasons. She obviously had a thing for him and I was not about to let her come between our relationship. I offered other suggestions like renting a place, or even staying at a motel but he refused.   So we chatted more about it, and of course, I was not about to let that happen…. at least while I was with him. Like what girlfriend in their right mind would even agree to something like that? Like “Yeah sure hunny, go have fun, be safe, and make sure you keep your dick in your pants okay?”…. like no just no.

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So later on we got talking and he mentioned that I could come with him. I thought about it for a while, really not wanting to stay at this broad’s house but if it meant to help save our relationship I would do it. So what did my ass start do? I started packing for the week. I knew he had made up his mind to leave later that day so I started packing away!  I remember later on I had sent him a message asking if I needed to bring extra pillows or anything and he replied being so confused. I called him up and asked what the problem was, and he stated that I could not come live with them for a bit at her house.  I told him that he stated I could come with, but he had meant for the car ride with his mom to drop him off……… are you KIDDING me. I lost it and I mean lost it on the phone. I do not think I have ever seemed so crazy in my life, I was literally the definition of a nut job and for good reasons. I left him the option that if he goes we are absolutely done. I can not live day by day with my nerves built up like that… especially for my own god damn sanity that is for sure. So he chose to leave and I right then and there dumped his ass…BYE FELICIA. Of course being idiots that we were we continued to hate text each other the rest of the day and he decided to inform me that Sarah was wondering why I didn’t go with his mom to drop him off. Apparently, she had stated, “I would want my girlfriend to come, just so you can Show that he is your property“. First of all, what the hell does that even mean? Second, Sarah you made me that psychotic bitch. Third, at least she opened my eyes to someone who I do not want to spend the rest of my life with that is for sure! Oh my goodness still when I talk about that incident I get heated and wonder how a boyfriend can be so dumb… someone please inform me.

I have one more crazy girlfriend story for you beauts, this one actually still has to do with the previous ex I had talked about up above.. no surprise there! I remember the one day I was lurking his Facebook because well… the motherf***er left it on I actually did not know his password surprisingly! How shocking!!! So anyways , my boyfriend and I at the time actually were planning on going vacation with his family to a tropical destination in a month or so (just keep that in mind). So I am lurking his messages between him and his friend and come across my boyfriend saying how he wishes Brittany (fake name) could come to the destination with us because she is so hot. Why I did not tell this guy to take a large hike and a half a while ago is still beyond me. But that did not fly well with me whatsoever considering his own god damn girlfriend was the one coming to the place with him not Brittany. When you look back at all these incidents you literally just laugh. Like why would anybody in their right mind want to be with someone who treats you like that and is THAT disrespectful to their own girlfriend? So basically the message to take away from these storytimes is that is he makes you a crazy ass bitch, pce out from that relationship it isn’t worth it. The feel or need to lurk is ridiculous and nobody should have to go to that extreme with their significant partner. There is obviously a lack of trust in the relationship or even a lack of communication.

I hope you guys enjoyed these storytime experiences I have had with crappy relationships in the past! I often find storytimes are so entertaining to read! Be sure to follow me on my other social media accounts:

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