Month: January 2020

Hello my beauts and sweets! Lyss here, and boy am I excited you are here to listen. More importantly, I am glad you have decided to pop by and take a peek at my blog… specifically this exact post. Recently we all just celebrated a brand new year, 2020. Wow. Whether you were in your jammies, all dressed up and fancy or even just playing a game of scrabble, as soon as it hit midnight, it happened. A new year has begun and you know what that means? It’s time to reflect. I love taking a step back and analyzing what the actual hell happened in 2019. Often however, I feel like we analyze the year and automatically think how we can improve ourselves for the next year. We analyze every single fuck up we made, and think how we can improve on that. Trust me, that’s fantastic we want to improve on ourselves and we will get there. But in reality, did you take the ten minutes on New Years Eve, New Years Day or this past week and acknowledge all the accomplishments you achieved this past year? Want to know a secret? My brain automatically jumped to, “how can I improve”, or “what new years resolution will I create for myself this year?“. My brain didn’t stop and congratulate myself on my achievements big or small from this past year. In fact, I had to really sit back and think hard about what I really was proud of, isn’t that sad? I hate how little I give myself credit at times. As humans, we are so hard on ourselves, it’s so insane but it’s also reality. So I want to take a second and ask you, “What were you proud of in 2019?”.

Sure, maybe it was not the greatest year of all time. Maybe you had a severe heartbreak, maybe you got written up at your job, maybe you got fired from a job, had a falling out with the family or even had a death happen within the family. Life is tough, it throws curveballs at you and expects you to just get over things. That is not always the case. Even so, that certain event that had taken place may even have ruined your year of 2019. For two seconds, I want you to open your mind to a positive viewpoint. Push past that negative voice digging at you to only remember that unfortunate event. I know deep down you had some pretty amazing things happen to you this year. Even if they are the tiniest little things, I want you to make a list. Read it. Share it. Embrace it. In fact, I sat back and wrote a small list myself.

1. Remember the time at work when you were involved with Summer Program, and your boss mentioned to you that a parent was wondering if you worked at the Daycare as well? Remember when you were not super close with this child, but apparently she had mentioned you at home so many times and how much of an impact you had on her? That was a pretty damn good feeling.
2. Remember that time you gave your dad an amazing birthday present? Remember how you left him speechless, and you had a drawing created for him by an artist. This amazing artist drew your dad, aunt and their deceased mother hugging them. Do you remember how beautiful this moment was?
3. Remember when you went on your first beautiful vacation with the love of your life? You went on your first cruise and shared so many amazing memories together. You visited different places and cherished the time you spent.
4. Remember how many amazing companies you got to collaborate with? How many friendships you created online and the beautiful comments the companies stated about your work ethic? I do.
5. Remember the time you brought your coworker a muffin and a tea from timmies unexpectedly. She was having an off day and you wanted to change her mood.

Honest to god, when it hit 2020, I was set and ready. I was ready to improve on so many different things which is amazing. There’s always room for improvement, but I forgot to take the time to give myself a pat on the back. This really hasn’t been the easiest year in the world. A lot of shit has happened, a lot that I didn’t think I was strong enough to get through. I have never really taken the time to say, “wow…. you are one badass bitch”. I honestly needed to hear that. Take the time to pat yourself on the back, think about what an amazing human being you were this year, and congratulate yourself, you made it. You are here. You are jumping into 2020. Hold on tight.

When it comes to 2020, I literally think, “holy hell”. This has to be the best year right? I need this to be the best damn year yet, after all…. it’s 2020. I know for a fact that my nutrition needed to change for the better, I need a smoking hot ass body this year for sure. I picture myself as those fit models on Instagram. Often I jump to these huge goals that kind of scare the shit out of me to be quite honest. Taking baby steps is always the best idea and I need to remind myself of that. Instead of waking up wishing I had Jillian Michael’s body, I will try to drink more water and cut out some of the junk food I munch on daily. Creating smaller goals will help ease you into the year, they are attainable they are achievable. This year, I am for sure going to create smaller goals for myself. As much as I would love to just say, “I want a hot body“, I am going to focus more on being optimistic and encouraging myself on the daily. A few goals that I have in mind would be to create more conversations amongst coworkers, try to make more eye contact (even if it’s only for a few seconds), wake up everyday and really try to go into work with a positive attitude. While working on these smaller goals, I am going to encourage myself, and acknowledge when I make small progress. If I ask Sally at work if she had a great weekend and what her plans were….. you better be damned I am going to congratulate myself for that effort. One piece of advice that I am going to offer to you beauts is to love yourself for the small progress you make. To be quite honest, I have not been doing this too often and I am going to work on this! I really hope you do too! Creating a more optimistic lifestyle is never an easy thing to do, but it is something that can be worked on!

So when someone asks you what your goals are for 2020, go ahead and make your list. But I want you to answer this question first, “What accomplishments happened in 2019 and what are you proud of?”. Even though it may have not been the year of your dreams, I know for sure you did something in that year that impacted someone else in a positive way. Keep doing YOU.