Hearts and Tarts; just a girl with a love for baking and things tarts!

Music- The Archies- Sugar Sugar

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Hello my beauts and welcome to my channel! Thank you so much for stopping by, I appreciate it a ton, means a lot to me! I hope everyone is having a wonderful day so far, I know I am! What has everyone been up to lately? Honestly, I have been catching up on some blog posts lately and have been busy getting ready for a new job that I will be starting at the beginning of July. I will be a daycare teacher, so I am very excited about that, and I will be moving back home again!  I am excited for this new chapter in my life and I am nervous a bit to start! I know that I will enjoy this a lot, and I am excited to see where this journey goes! You can do anything you set your mind to,  and if you work hard and want to accomplish your dreams you certainly can! Speaking of chasing your dreams, and working hard, I have one certain individual that comes to mind when I think of all of this. I have known this individual throughout high school and she was always a sweet girl. Although I did not know her on a personal level, she always had an absolutely rocking style and had great hair! We are talking all sorts of colours, absolutely love it. This beautiful kind soul is Sam Auton, and I have followed Sam for quite some time over Instagram, always admiring her cooking posts! Honestly, I am not the greatest cook in the world myself, so I always admire when someone else can cook well! Who knows, maybe it will inspire me one day! Not only is Sam full of amazing hair colours, tattoos galore, and is a wonderful chef, she is a mom to a handsome boy and decided to create her own business recently. I don’t know about you beauts, but when someone I know starts their own business I am over the moon happy for them! It’s not easy. Especially if you have a hectic schedule! Sam recently started her own business called, “Hearts and Tarts” (love the name, it’s so catchy!), and is doing quite well so far!

I knew I had to reach out to Sam in regards to her new business she started up! I was super happy when she agreed to collaborate with me on a blog post! Sam is a 25-year-old, who is the mom of an amazing 5-year-old boy. She is also an avid sports fan as well! Cooking and baking have always been a huge part of her life ever since she could remember!  Sam states, “I love new and challenging adventures when it comes to my cooking“. I absolutely love this, and if it were me, the pan would already go flying across the room… that is how much patience I have when it comes to cooking, so I really respect her for that! I wanted to jump right in and start asking Sam the questions we are dying to know about her history when it comes to cooking and baking! Right away I was curious as to how long she had started cooking and baking. Sam explains, “I’ve been baking since I was a little girl, whether it was with my mom or my grandma I loved to bake ever since I can remember. Cooking came a little bit later in life once I started working in restaurants at 15. I always had a curiosity for food, and always wanted to learn more”.

“…I dyed my hair! It’s pretty crazy but I’m absolutely LOVING it. It’s super bright, and fun and it makes me insanely happy”- Sam Auton

Another question that I was very curious about was I wanted to know if it was self-taught or if Sam had taken any classes at all? Sam attended George Brown for the Culinary Management Program which was a two-year program.  Sam states, “it taught me a lot being in that program. It’s more French-based learning but was able to learn a lot of other types of food and cuisine as well. It was a lot of fun and hard work. I had an externship at Trump Hotel which gave me a lot of experience in the high-end culinary world and helps me really finesse my skills that I was able to bring with me to any job I’ve been at”.  That’s awesome Sam, way to go! You are doing so well for yourself! It really helps when you enjoy what you are doing in life, and are satisfied with your job! There is nothing like going to a job and dreading it, it makes your day go by so slow and just…. you hate it!

When did you first notice you wanted to get into the food industry? “I knew I wanted to get into the food industry full time when I was about 18. My family had always told me I should be a chef, and it wasn’t actually till I was at McMaster University that I really realized what I wanted to do. After one year at McMaster, I made the jump to George Brown and never looked back. It’s a tough and gruelling industry but can be really rewarding at the time”. I highly agree that it can be a very rewarding career path for sure! I am so happy and proud of you that you found your calling!

One thing that’s pretty neat about Sam that I think you beauts should know about is that she loves her food tattoos which I think is honestly so amazing and unique! I wanted to know a bit more about what kinds of food tattoos she has, and what inspired her to get them! Sam explains, “over the years I have gotten quite a few food tattoos. Some are just silly (like my grilled cheese and avocado) and others were based on family. My favourite food tattoo is my butter tart. My grandma was a big inspiration to me through many aspects of my life, but baking and cooking were the ones that really stuck. She was famous in our family for her butter tarts, and the last thing I was able to make her before she passed away was butter tarts that were her recipe. She told me they were perfect and that has always stuck with me as the biggest compliment of my career. She, unfortunately, didn’t make it to when I started culinary school, but I know she would have been proud of me. I have a few other silly food tattoos like my “lettuce turnip the beets” tattoo and a pineapple and some other small ones (also I have a hotdog which I’m pretty stoked about)”.  I love this Sam, I think your grandma would be so proud of you and how far you have come! I mean look at you, now starting your own business, that is such an accomplishment! I love all the other food tattoos you shared, I think that is so unique and different, they suit you so much!

I know all you beauts are dying to know how her business, “Hearts and Tarts” came to be! Sam explains, “the inspiration came from entering a buttertart competition that I was in a week or so ago. Everyone who taste-tested my tarts told me they were great and some told me I should start selling them. Baking is something I’ve always been told I’m a natural at and I wanted to pursue it more as I’m mainly focusing on cooking at the moment”.  I love this, and I am dying to taste some of the tarts myself! I am waiting for a special occasion to come up then I will purchase some! The pictures look absolutely amazing! Yum! If you beauts would like to place an order for yourselves, the best way would be through either Facebook Messenger, the direct messenger on Instagram, or you can also email Sam at heartsandtarts18@gmail.com. You can also call or text Sam, as her number is located on both her Facebook and Instagram page. Her Facebook can be reached at ” http://www.facebook.com/heartsandtarts” and her Instagram page can be reached at “@heartsandtartss”. 

“It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon, just put your head down and get through it”- Words of advice from Sam’s mom

Sam is currently running her own business, “Hearts and Tarts” through her own home. If the business grows over the next year or two, she would consider investing in a storefront if everything was in order. Sam is always available to deliver and pickup is an option as well! That’s great Sam,  I think that is a perfect idea and I think that is very smart thinking! You have a plan and that’s all that matters.

Who are your biggest supporters?My whole family is behind me in this. They’ve always been my biggest supporters. My son thinks it’s fantastic (I think more so because he can taste test them all, who wouldn’t be excited about that?) And also my boyfriend and his family. They’ve been exceptional at giving me support (and extra taste testers when I need them to be)”. That is so fun, I absolutely love that! I know your son would enjoy that so much, best mom of the year right there! Love it! Another question that I was dying to know was what kind of tarts Sam made! Sam states, “I know this will sound vague, but any kind you can dream of, I can make. Anything from plain butter tarts, to chocolate chip banana bread, PB&J tarts and cookie tarts, to carrot cake, key lime pie, red velvet. If you can dream it, I can make it. I cater to dietary needs as well. My son has a severe nut allergy so I can cater to nut allergies, gluten-free, and even vegan (which you can thank my vegan mom for). I try to pride myself on making people as happy as possible, and if that means catering to specific needs, I’m going to do my absolute best at doing so”.  I absolutely love this, and I love how you are so set on catering to people’s needs, I find that so important and I think that is so respectable.  That’s amazing that you can make literally any kind of tart, that sounds delicious! I am going to have to think of one and let you know! YUM! I know carrot cake sounds absolutely unreal, and so does chocolate chip banana bread!

I then went in and asked Sam some more personal questions! A lot of people start businesses or enjoy doing a certain thing from inspiration around them. Inspiration helps so much whether it be an object or even a person.  Sam expresses, “my biggest inspirations for cooking would have to be Graham Elliot. I watched him growing up, I’ve met him and he’s fantastic. He has the best personality for a chef that I’ve seen. He makes it fun while instilling in people to work hard and give it their all, push the limits on creativity because cooking is supposed to be fun. For baking, my grandma. May sound cheesy but I always remember watching her or helping her bake as a kid, and those are some of my favourite memories with her”.  Awh this is amazing Sam, not cheesy one bit! I think that that is absolutely beautiful and I think family inspires us so much. I know she is one proud grandma that is for sure!

“If you’re going to get into this industry, be prepared for the tough days…”

Cooking and baking isn’t easy, especially going into the industry. Sam has a few tips, pointers and advice for individuals who are wanting to start their own business or want to work in the food industry. Sam explains, “if you’re going to get into this industry, be prepared for the tough days. Cooking can be fun, but it’s a lot of hard work. Put in the work because it will eventually pay off. Whether it be opening a restaurant of your own, a food truck, a cookbook, a promotion at work, it will all pay off. If you want to start your own business, make sure you have support. Whether it be family or friends (or hell, even both) you need support. Days are going to be long and hard and it’ll test you, but at the end of the day, you CAN and WILL get through it. Don’t give up because it can be insanely rewarding”.   I love this and appreciate you sharing your advice on both of these subject matters, I think it really helps individuals who are interested in wanting to pursue this career path that’s for sure. Even individuals who want to create their own business, it’s not easy. I love your advice and thank you so much for sharing! I think this will help out a bunch of people that’s for sure.

You’ll always come out the other side. When I’m having a really busy day at work and orders keep coming in, to keep myself composed, I know that if I put my head down and get through it, eventually it will be over, even if the end isn’t in your sights”- Sam Auton

The most famous question that I actually love to ask everyone who I am interviewing is where do they see themselves 5 years from now. I always find everyone’s answers so interesting and unique, there is not one bad answer and I literally respect everyone’s opinions and thoughts! Sam states, “in 5 years from now, I’ll be 30. I’ve reached all the goals I’ve set for myself up to this point and I don’t plan on stopping. By the time I’m 30, I would love to have my own food truck up and running. That’s my ultimate goal for the next 5 years is how I’m going to end up reaching that goal. Ever since my son was born, I wanted him to grow up seeing that no matter the circumstance that was thrown my way, at the end of the day, I still achieved my goals. He’s my biggest inspiration for everything in my life”.  I think you are on your way to success and have already succeeded so much in your life Sam! I know your boy is probably so proud of his hardworking momma! I know I am very proud of you and all your accomplishments. Once you have that food truck up and running in the future I will be there grabbing some food that’s for sure! I want to personally take the time to thank Sam Auton for collaborating with me on this blog post, you’re amazing! I wish you nothing but the best for you, your family and your future endeavours. I know you are going far, and I am for sure going to get my hands on some of those tarts that’s for sure. I know everyone is super proud of you and your accomplishments. I am so happy about your new business and can not wait to see where it goes! If everyone could go and spread some love on her pages, on Facebook and Instagram that would be wonderful! Give her a quick like and follow! I hope your business takes off for you, and it was a pleasure collabing with you! I hope you beauts enjoyed this blog post as much as I enjoyed writing it. Be sure to subscribe to my channel if you beauts would like to see upcoming blog posts in the near future! Take care and much love xo.

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POESY- “The art or practice of composing poems”- Interview and Collaboration

(Photograph was taken by @chelseabrimstinphotography. If you guys have not checked out her work and page yet I highly recommend it, she is so talented and gifted!)

Hello my beauts and welcome back to my blogging channel! Hi, hello, my name is Alyssa and I am so glad you chose to pop by and say hi! I have been blogging for several years now and absolutely love my hobby with a passion. I would not change it for the world. One piece of advice I would offer my viewers is to find something that keeps you busy and that you enjoy doing. It honestly took me a while to find out what my hobby was, but once I found it, I have never been happier. One thing that makes me absolutely adore my hobby, even more, is interviewing individuals from different communities. I thought of the idea a while back and literally thought to myself, “there are so many people from around the world with beautifully hidden talents, I would love to talk about them on my channel and show them off“.  I know for a fact if I had a hidden talent and a blogger reached out to me and wanted to write about me I would be caught off guard but in a good way! So, that is when I decided to reach out to different people, ones who inspire me a lot, ones who are beautiful souls inside and out, and ones who deserve to share their story with others around the world.  There is one lady in particular that has stood out to me over the past few months. Not going to lie, I do not watch too many television shows or series, I always end up missing an episode and I get far behind. I decided to watch a new television series called, “The Launch”, which looked very interesting to me, as I love singing shows (secretly wishing I could sing myself).  This show helps undiscovered artists shape the creation of new releases with the help of producers and songwriters.

(Photograph was taken by @chelseabrimstinphotograph)

While watching “The Launch“, one girl on the show caught my attention. She had a very unique and beautiful look to her. Not only was she stunning, but her voice was out of this world. Her voice is the type of voice that makes you stop what you are doing and just listen giving you goosebumps all over your body. Her voice has so much power, meaning, and feeling behind it. I think this is what I specifically look for when it comes to singers if they actually have the feeling and power of their voice when they are singing.  This lady, being only 23 years old, caught my attention right off the bat and I was rooting for her throughout her whole journey on The Launch. I am honoured and pleased to announce and share that I will be interviewing none other than “POESY” herself.

I remember clear as day, I was in the car with my mom and was in the parking lot of a grocery store. To let you beauts all know I do have two Instagram accounts at the moment, one was for my blogging account, but I decided to just use my main Instagram account from now on. I received a notification on my old account that someone just started following me. I didn’t think it was a huge big deal until I saw who it was that had followed me. It was none other than POESY herself, and I was in awe. I called my mom in the grocery store as I was just waiting in the car and told her the news, that POESY  and I were actually chatting back and forth, having a conversation. I asked POESY if she would be interested in being featured on my blogging channel discussing her music career and Launch experience. POESY was more than happy to be featured on my channel, and I was literally on cloud 9. How was this happening? I informed my mom of the news and she was ecstatic for me as she was a huge fan of POESY herself as well. Right away we played “Soldier of Love” and started dancing and belting it out. I will never forget that day and the amount of happiness that flooded my body. One thought that entered my mind when chatting with POESY was how down to earth she was.

(Photograph was taken by @chelseabrimstinphotography)

POESY was born in Halifax, Nova Scotia.   She had lived on the east coast for a while,  and then eventually her family relocated to Ontario. Like myself, she watches too many Youtube Vlogs, and her bookshelf is colour coded to look like a rainbow. POESY was always kind of a musical child, as she started taking piano when she was 5 years old. POESY states, “I was never nervous to sing in front of people, which now seems kind of ironic because I grew up a very shy kid. The first time I remember falling in love with singing was when I was 9 years old and sang at my grandparents 40th anniversary party. My parents thought it would be cute if I performed something, even though I’d never really done it before, and since the party took place around Christmas time, I sang a Christmas song called ‘the Gift’. It was originally performed by Aselin Debison (who is also from Nova Scotia), and I remember thinking, “When I’m a teenager, I’m going to be a singer just like her.” After that, I just kind of got obsessed and singing just became a part of who I am. It’s weird to think of a time when I didn’t do it”.  I could not agree more with what you had said POESY! That is just like me when it comes to my blogging, it is hard to think of a time when I was not blogging. I feel like blogging has always been a part of me, just like your singing!

I then went on to ask POESY what her basic interests and hobbies were. POESY shares that outside of music, she really loves cooking. POESY explains, “The fanciest meal I used to be able to make was pre-packaged tortellini, but after a became (mostly) vegetarian a few years ago, I think it motivated me to become more creative and find ways to make veggies and beans taste just as good as meat. I also really love yoga – I’m still very much a beginner and definitely have a lot to learn, but it really helps me get into a calm headspace when things get hectic”. I love this. I have always wanted to try something new such as yoga as I have heard it’s extremely peaceful, calming and relaxing. This would especially be beneficial when times get really hectic especially since I struggle with anxiety!

(Photograph was taken by @chelseabrimstinphotography) – How adorable is she though?!

POESY has been playing the piano for almost 18 years now (really wish I could play the piano!). I absolutely love hearing someone play the piano since I do not play any musical instruments. Now that I am dating someone who knows how to play the trumpet and piano, it’s so beautiful and peaceful hearing him play!  POESY also knows how to play some basic guitar which is awesome! She writes a lot of the guitar because she doesn’t understand where the scales are, so it allows her to get out of her head, and just write based on feeling rather than what key it’s in. After wanting to get to know a bit about POESY and her story, I wanted to get into some deeper questions that I know you beauts are dying to find out. I wanted to know more about POESY’s music career and how she got to where she is today. I wanted to know what her biggest challenge was to get to where she is today. POESY states, “the biggest challenge to getting here was honestly probably just surrendering and putting my whole self into this career. I had known I wanted to do music for over half my life, but I had always been too scared to jump in and commit 100% of my time to it. Now that I am, it’s definitely a lot of work and comes with a host of new stresses, but they’re good ones – the kind that motivates you to go after what you really want and challenge you to be better. And it’s so worth it. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been”.  I just wanted to say I am so proud of you POESY for putting yourself out there and showing the world your beautiful talent, you should be so proud of yourself because I am!

(Photograph was taken by @chelseabrimstinphotography)

Who was your biggest supporter? I’m very lucky to have always had parents who were very supportive of my artistic pursuits. From driving me to gigs to investing in my piano lessons, they’ve always been there telling me what you dream is possible. I also have an amazing core group of friends and a wonderful girlfriend who has always told me that what I’m doing is worth it. I know that not everyone who has big dreams is as fortunate as I’ve been in the support department, which is why a big part of my music’s message is to follow your heart because I’d love to be able to be that support for someone else”.  I completely agree I think it is so important to have parents, family and friends who care about you and support you 100%. I absolutely love your message POESY, you have such a genuine heart and I have not even met you yet! You can just tell, and this is rare to find. 

One question I like ask individuals is if they could go back and change the clock, would they change anything, or would they have done something differently? Often I sit back and wonder about this question personally, and there are some things I wish could have done differently for sure. Then again, you learn from your mistakes, and that is life. POESY explains, “I’m very proud of every decision I’ve made throughout my career – and while I guess I could say, “I wish I had started pursuing things more professionally sooner,” if I had, I wouldn’t have experienced the life-changing moments and struggles that made me into the person I am today. The only thing I might’ve done is taken some dance classes as a kid so I was more graceful on stage”.  I completely agree with you POESY, I wish I would have taken my blogging a little more seriously at the beginning as well, that way maybe I could’ve been further along at this point. But hey, you live and you learn! You are still young, beautiful and have your whole life ahead of you!

(Photograph was taken by @chelseabrimstinphotography)

“…I get most of my clothes from thrift shops, and I think I always will to some extent. 
I love putting on pieces of fabric and imagine they’ve been through all kinds of adventures, both sad and happy. Maybe they’ve been on a plane halfway around the world, maybe they’ve witnessed someone fall in love, maybe they’ve been stained with tears, maybe they’ve been pulled tightly to keep someone warm. Maybe they were someone’s go to companion on a good night out, or maybe they were the dreaded ugly piece at the back of the wardrobe that someone’s Aunt Freida improperly gifted. Or maybe they were none of that and just a piece of clothing. 
Either way, I like imaging. It makes me feel like we’re all a little more connected to one another, like maybe one day I’ll stumble across something that belonged to one of you. The piece I’m wearing in these photos must have seen some wonderful stuff because I can’t help but feel magical in it “- POESY

(Photograph was taken by @chelseabrimstinphotography)

One of the biggest questions that I wanted to ask POESY and was very curious about was how she had got involved with “The Launch“. Also, what was her experience like on there as well. What an amazing opportunity! POESY shares, “I got involved with the Launch about a year ago when I was contacted by a member of their A&R team. They mentioned the opportunity to me and encouraged me to submit an application. I recorded a quick video of me strumming Zombie by the Cranberries in my bedroom and a few months later, I was on a VIA rail train to Toronto to film the Launch. The whole experience was very positive, welcoming, and nurturing. I had never been involved with television before (or really any kind of large-scale musical showcase) so I didn’t know what to expect. But I was pleasantly surprised with the amount of support and care I received on set from everyone. They felt like family and I left feeling like I’d just had the most unbelievable few days of my life” Wow! What an incredible experience POESY, you must be so proud of yourself! I know I am so proud of you, and I know that thousands of other people are proud of you as well! You are an inspiration to so many people, and I can not thank you enough for that!

Do you write your own lyrics, if so, what inspires you? “Yes! While I didn’t write Soldier of Love, because of the nature of the show, I do write all my other material and am in the process of writing a lot right now. I’m inspired by all sorts of things in life – namely, my own experiences or those of my family and friends. I’m definitely a proponent of ‘write what you know’, but I also like sprinkling in references to literature, poems, history, and mythology because I’m an English major and occasionally like to use my degree”.

What was one piece of advice someone gave you in regards to your music and singing career? “The best piece of advice someone gave me was to step away from the piano and be a full-fledged performer. A lot of the musical personas I look up to a lot (Freddie Mercury, Florence Welch, Lady GaGa) have a huge presence on stage and I think, while I always aspired to that, I never really felt like it was something I could exhibit myself. Sometimes all it takes is one person giving you permission to become something bigger than yourself to push you to grow into the artist you were meant to be. In short, don’t limit yourself and be open to doing things outside of your comfort zone because the payoff will be huge”. Wow, after reading this POESY I stepped back from my computer and took in everything you just said. I love how you emphasize not to limit yourself, and to push yourself out of your comfort zone. I feel like a lot of people can relate to this, and take this in. I, myself, have had some big opportunities come my way, for example interviewing you, and my anxiety does get heightened because it is a big opportunity for me, I do not want to mess up! I love the advice you share, it truly means a lot coming from someone so successful such as yourself. I know a lot of people will be able to relate to this for sure.

(Photograph was taken by @chelseabrimstinphotography)

Often, if we are starting something new we do not know where to even start or how to go about something. I wanted to know if POESY had any words of advice to someone who was just starting out in the music industry. POESY states, “Write a list of reasons why you love music. Why it makes you happy. Why it makes your heart sing. Think long and hard about it and get as specific as you can. Then hang it up or save it on a computer somewhere where you can easily see it. Anytime you make a decision about your career or come across a setback, remind yourself of why you love what you’re doing. It’s very easy in this industry to lose sight of why you started this journey in the first place, so being really concretely sure about why you love and want to do this will make it easier to both push ahead in hard times and take a moment to relish a good time”.  Thank you so much for the words of advice and wisdom POESY! I highly agree with what you are saying. I think it is so important to remind ourselves why we start something, and why we love it. I could not agree more with the “hanging it up” somewhere in your house to see. I think just waking up in the morning and seeing this will help brighten your day.

“…Cupcakes, spring days and sly smiles because hey, things might just be turning around”- POESY

Another question that I love asking individuals who I am interviewing is where do they see themselves 5 years from now. POESY explains, “I see myself as being an artist who is lucky enough to have a music career that can take them all over the world. I really want to travel and see as much as I can. I’ll be almost 30 so hopefully, I won’t be too stressed out. By that point, I’d also like to have two recorded and released albums under my belt.  I’ll have a tiny little dog that comes on tour with me, have the time to celebrate the highs and lows with my friends and family, and maybe be working on my first book”.  That is amazing POESY, and I wish you nothing but the best in your endeavours. You truly are going places, I have a good feeling about this! Just don’t forget this little old blogger when you are really famous! haha! I am praying for you, and wish you well!

Did you always know you wanted to become a singer? “Yes! I remember doing a school project in the 4th grade where you had to research what you wanted to be when you grew up. Mine was on a black bristol board complete with a red Hollywood-style curtain pulled back on either side to reveal the gold letters that read: “Singer”. I remember even then, my teachers were hesitant about the 9-year-old who claimed she was going to win Grammys and perform all over the world one day, but I always knew it in my heart”. I truly believe that this is going to be you one-day POESY, you got this, and you have a lot of people who are rooting for you like myself. You are so talented and you can do anything you set your mind to!

One question that I was really looking forward to hearing from POESY was geared towards her eating disorder. As you beauts know I personally suffer from an eating disorder myself, so I can relate and it really hit home for me reading her Instagram post on “Bell Let’s Talk Day”. POESY released a video explaining that one of her songs is in relation to her eating disorder and came out to share. I had to ask POESY about it, and if she had a message to those who may be suffering, like myself, at this time. POESY shares, “I feel like I’m not the best example of this. I denied my eating disorder for a really long time because the struggle I was experiencing felt more comforting than pushing myself to recover. Recovery was really hard, and I consider myself to still be working on it. I think it only really started getting better when I made the choice to choose a fully happy and healthy life, free from the grips of my disorder. I unfollowed every Instagram account that made me feel bad about my body and replaced them with people who were also in the recovery/body positivity community so that I saw inspiring messages from people going through the same thing as me every day. That made me feel a lot less alone. I also started to get into cooking, so that I found a creative way to enjoy food again. And most importantly, I opened up to people in my life and told them what I was experiencing. Once people around me knew, we were able to work together to find ways to make sure I was continuing to work towards a life where I felt comfortable in my own skin. The best message I can give to someone who is struggling right now is that recovery is hard; it’s more than being able to eat ice cream whenever you want or having pizza just because. It’s a choice that you make every day – it’s a process. And it’s okay to not be perfect at it every day. There may be times, even years after, where you still have bad body image days. But eventually, those will be farther and fewer in between and you will feel like yourself again. It might be a slightly different you than you knew before, but it will be beautiful and strong and so worth it”.  I want to personally thank you for your beautiful message to those who may be struggling. It is hard. It’s a very hard process, and it is nowhere near easy. I am on the road to recovery now, but getting there and admitting I really need help was not easy. I love how you unfollowed some Instagram accounts that made you feel bad about your body, and I think this step will help me greatly. I think following some more accounts which shed body positivity will help me on my road to recovery. I know it was not probably easy for you to share this with the world on, “Bell Let’s Talk Day”, but I truly want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing this. Not only are you expressing that it is okay to get help and not be okay, but you are being a positive role model for thousands of people from around the world like myself, and I can not thank you enough for that. You are beautiful.

“…Be who you are, love who you love, and shine as bright as you freaking can, no matter what that looks like, because you are wildly special”- POESY

Before I end this interview with the beautiful and talented POESY I would love to give a shout out and acknowledge the gorgeous pictures that I had shared in this blog post. Although I do not know the photographer personally, she has a gift and talent that is exceptional.  I absolutely love photography and I am always intrigued by the type of photography artists choose to do, and by far this is amazing and beautiful work. I highly recommend checking out POESY’s beautiful girlfriend’s work over on Instagram at “@chelseabrimstinphotography“. I would absolutely love to maybe book a photography session with her one time, that would be amazing. She is from Toronto Ontario, which I am super excited about! Keep up the fantastic work Chelsea Brimstin, you are going places just like your girlfriend POESY. Keep on shining! Beautiful work!

“…she made me realize that to love someone is to fall in love with their whole soul before you even realize it’s happening”- POESY

I want to personally take the time to thank the beautiful POESY for allowing me to collaborate with her and agreeing to be interviewed. I can not get over how amazing and talented you are, you are such a beautiful soul inside and out. You really are going places, and I will not forget the day you responded back to my message on Instagram! (me dancing full out in the car singing Soldier of Love with Mom cranked up). I love how down to earth you are, you were my favourite singer on “The Launch” and I wish you nothing but the best for your future endeavours. You completely made my day! Keep on being you, keep offering your beautiful words of advice and wisdom to many others around the world.  You truly are one of a kind and an inspiration to thousands of individuals such as myself. Keep on shining, and enjoy your wonderful journey. I can not wait to see you on May 11th at The Zoetic in Hamilton Ontario. Of course, I had to get VIP seats to see you, and I am counting down the days! Maybe I will even get the chance to meet you as well, who even knows! That would be a surreal experience! Love you POESY! I hope you beauts enjoyed this blog collaboration and interview with POESY. Be sure to follow her on Instagram and support her music journey! Much love xo.

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Mental Health Update- Chat Chat with me


Hello my beauts, Alyssa here! It’s been a while since I have talked to you guys, sat down with a cup of tea, and just shot the shit with you beauts. I have been so busy doing collaborations with companies lately, that it is nice to take a break and just sit down and talk to you guys about what has been going on in my life so far. As you beauts know I am always real with yous, I never hide anything and I am always sharing updates about what is happening in my life, especially on topics such as mental health. As most of you guys know mental health runs in my family, and it is not something I am ashamed to discuss with you guys, infact it is a topic I am extremely open about. I am an advocate for mental health and love sharing with you guys everything how I am feeling and my emotions. Lately, my family has been struggling with a lot of personal family matters, something that I am not going to broadcast because it is rather personal. As a result of this I have not been myself whatsoever, it has been constant days where I am completely up and about, and other days where I just want to sleep all day. It does not take a lot for me to worry about things, so I have been to say the least.. a mess. I have thought long and hard about what I am going to do, knowing that something needs to be done. I am not one to sit there and do nothing about the situation, I am not going to sit there feeling sorry for myself, that’s not me. I like to do things about situations and I think that is exactly what you have to do when life gets in the way of things. You need to make a plan. So that’s what I started to do. As you beauts know I am in college right now for Social Service Work and it has been extremely hard for me to focus on school at the moment for the past month or so. I let a professor know what was going on, and she was extremely supportive. I tried from then on to keep attending classes and try to focus on assignments and so forth but it was getting tough. I knew that I needed to start taking care of myself whatever that meant to do.


I recently was supposed to start placement the other day and knew I just could not do that right now. I am not in the right state of mind, I have no motivation for school whatsoever, and I would be setting myself up for failure not knowing if I would wake up and not want to go to placement that day. I then thought long and hard about what I was  going to do, breaking down to my mom about everything that has been going on. I am so glad I have that support there for me.  Family means absolutely everything to me, they are the closest people you have to you. I let my mom know that I don’t think I can do placement right now, and she completely understood. I let her know I was not in the right mindset and that I have not been myself lately whatsoever.  People who struggle with mental health issues can sometimes be up and down, and different things trigger our emotions, it can also be completely out of nowhere. I came to the conclusion that I decided to postpone school, for now, I am almost done, but I feel like I am not going to do my best or even go for that matter if I continue right now. This was a big decision to make but honestly, mental health comes first before school. I just wanted to chat with you guys and let you know that sometimes life gets in the way of things, it’s unplanned and it happens but you just have to sometimes think of a different plan and deal with it. I am now in contact with some counsellors from my college and I think I am going to start seeing my own personal therapist again just to touch base and get things off my chest. I can not emphasize how amazing it feels to chat with someone, whether it be your mom, dad, friend, or a counsellor, someone is always there to help and you don’t have to be embarrassed about it whatsoever.  I never thought I was going to share my own personal life on the internet, with complete strangers and with others but something in me told me it was the right thing to do, so here I am today. I want others to know they are never alone, that there are options out there, and that it is okay to put your goals and dreams on hold. That is exactly what I am doing and I am content with my decision. It doesn’t mean I will not finish my program but it means that I will finish it at a later date and that is okay. My program is not going anymore, what matters the most and what is the most important thing right now is my mental health and making sure everything is okay.

Of course, it helps with this little one here with me, this is baby Winnie. She is a cockapoo puppy and has helped tremendously in our household as our therapy dog. Puppies and any animal for that matter as huge life savour when it comes to making you happy, smile and bring peace into your home. We have only had her for a few days and we already notice a huge difference in our home which is wonderful when I go and visit my mom. I highly recommend having an animal in your home if you are struggling or just need a bit more happiness/peace in your home.

I hope you guys enjoyed this little chit chat blog! I always like keeping you guys updated when it comes to my mental health and I always love sharing any piece of advice that I have! Also, want to give a shout out to @dodolashes for these beautiful mink lashes that you can purchase with my discount code “thatothertwin_xo” for 5% off at the checkout. Absolutely love these lashes, they are super easy to apply and look stunning for daytime/ night time looks. Take care, much love xo.

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Country Blitz with Lauren Elizabeth

Country Blitz with Lauren Elizabeth

Hey my beauts, I hope you are all doing well! Almost the weekend thank god! I can not wait till Thanksgiving and have my mom’s amazing potatoes, gravy and turkey galore. Can not forget about the pumpkin pie that’s for sure! So that is what is keeping me going throughout the week! That and country music. As you beauts may know I never have been the type to really be head over heels for country until recently. I have been getting more into country and living with my grandma, she always and I mean always listens to country music, so I am constantly around it. One thing I love about country is how beautiful the lyrics are, they are so simple yet so effective and powerful. I love the tone of voice in country music, it is so relaxing and I feel like with every song you can relate to it somehow. It is just simply beautiful and I have no other way to describe it. I happily reached out to a country artist who I have admired for a while now and asked if she would collaborate on a blog with me about her music! I am so thrilled to have her as a guest on my blog as her singing and talent is absolutely amazing. Just seventeen years old, born in  LaJolla California, this country artist is absolutely obsessed with lifted trucks, country music and singing.  She has moved a couple times since then but is recently living in Cave Creek Arizona for about 5 years now. Please give a warm welcome to the beautiful and talented Lauren Elizabeth Bizzell!

Lauren started singing since as long as she can remember. whether it was the third-grade talent show, or singing in the shower, in the car, it has always been something that she loved doing. Lauren has always said that everyone has their “thang” and hers is music. Lauren started playing piano in freshman year but chose to not continue with it, until she picked up the guitar one day and fell in love playing with it right off the bat. Lauren has been playing for a little more than two years now. Lauren states, “I think I was more into guitar because it was more ‘country’ then piano was to me. I play every day!”. She has been writing her own songs within the past year and has admitted to struggling with it. However, Lauren expresses, “worry now and then you get a few good lyrics and it turns out a little bit better every time. I try to find inspiration anywhere I can honestly. Anything from friends, relationships, life lessons, to being mad about something will usually do it for me. Really just anything I am passionate about, I seem to be able to write about”.  That’s amazing Lauren, way to go!


I was really curious to ask Lauren who inspired her to get into country music! Lauren explains, “my Mama! I guess you could say that country music is just in my blood because I grew up loving it. My Mom always sang, and we would always listen to Faith Hill, Martina McBride, Trisha Yearwood, and most 80s-90s country “divas”. I just never stopped loving their music, and their voice”.  I also went on to ask Lauren if she has ever performed on a stage before? Lauren states, “yes I love performing more than anything!!! I perform anywhere and anytime there is an opportunity because you never know who is listening! I want to perform like there’s a CEO of some big music label listening because someday that might be the case and it could make or break a successful music career!Lately, I have performed in an annual school district event that raises money for music programs in the schools in the Cave Creek school district called “Rock the District”, which is usually the highlight of my school year, every year since middle school when I did it with our choir. I have performed in it myself for three years now. I can’t wait for the next one!I also have been involved with Alice Cooper’s Proof is in the Pudding Talent Search. This is for people 25 and younger to compete for the prize of opening for Alice Cooper,  and other famous artists and bands like Joe Perry, Korn, The Hollywood Vampires, etc. I did it last year for the first time and made it to the quarterfinals! As of this year’s competition, round one is this week on Tuesday so wish me luck!! It’s been an amazing experience so far. You get to meet so many other talented musicians and new friends, and lots of people that want to help you succeed. The competition is held at Alic Cooper’s Solid Rock Teen Center in Phoenix, and during the year they provide free music lessons, dance lessons etc. it is a great thing to be involved with!” Wow! You should be so incredibly proud of yourself Lauren, that is so amazing and such an accomplishment by far! That is quite amazing that you have been involved with this and so many other things, great opportunities are coming your way!

I was also very curious as to what other hobbies Lauren enjoys doing! Lauren explains, “Well my favourite thing to do besides singing or play the guitar, is probably going to concerts! Whether it’s with my Mama or my best friends, I always seem to have the best time! I love hanging out with my best friends as much as I can, and I also work a lot and I am lucky to say that I actually really enjoy my job”.  Rock on Lauren!

“…Practice, Practice, and Practice some more!”

What personal advice would you give to someone who is just starting out in this career path? “Practice, practice, and practice some more!! Don’t waste any opportunities you get to sing or play for someone. You never know what doors each performance could open up for you! Sing/play like nobody is listening. Pretend you are just by yourself in your room, or wherever you feel the most comfortable, it decreases nerves!! Don’t give up if you get a hateful comment or negative feedback, either way, it is only going to make you stronger!”. These are great words of advice Lauren, that is awesome. I am sure you are helping out hundreds of individuals who needed to hear this and get help starting out!

Rather than giving advice, I was curious as to what was the best piece of advice  Lauren has gotten from someone before in regards to the music industry. Lauren explains, “I believe the best advice I ever got from somebody in regards to the music industry is to keep at it and don’t give up when you fail. There will be times when you mess up a song or get embarrassed at a gig but you have to pick yourself back up again, learn from your mistakes and apply those lessons next time! Fall down nine times and get back up ten times!”


“… fall down nine times and get back up ten times”.

Have you ever been on tour before? “I have never personally been on tour, however, I would love to! I do not think I am necessarily experienced enough to do so yet, but I love travelling and have always wanted to travel so I am sure that it would be so much fun. I haven’t made any concrete plans to tour but it’s definitely a goal of mine!”.  I have high hopes for you Lauren, I know you will make it big someday!


I was curious as to how long Lauren sings and practices for each day. Lauren explains and emphasizes that she sings with every chance she gets. She states that the best time for her to practice is usually when she is home alone which makes a lot of sense! If not home alone Lauren usually sings with just her younger brother who has learned to tolerate her constant singing. Lauren also explained that she will be doing the dishes and just start singing her lungs out. HAHA that is awesome Lauren if I could sing I would do the exact same thing that’s for sure!

Who are your favourite musicians? “Trisha Yearwood, Faith Hill, Miranda Lambert, Carrie Underwood, Eric Church, Dolly Parton, Gretchen Wilson, Chris Stapleton, Little Big Town…. I could go on for hours!”


Lastly, I always like to end my collaborations with individuals with the miracle question, where do they see themselves 5 years from now? Lauren expresses, “well the dream is for me to graduate high school and then attend Belmont University in Nashville to get a degree in Music Business, and then start playing every gig I can around there, to hopefully get a recording contract, or to figure out how else I can involve myself in the music business in case being the artist myself doesn’t work out”.  I really do have so many high hopes for you Lauren, you are a beautiful soul inside and out and have done amazing for yourself so far, that’s fantastic. I truly believe you are going to go super far one day, just keep doing you and you got this. I want to personally thank Lauren for allowing to be on my blog and collaborating with me on her music. She was a pleasure to work with, and it was so wonderful actually getting the time to get to know her personally. Please help spread and show some love on her Instagram page at, “lauren_elizabeth_music”, and be sure to give her a follow! You will not be disappointed whatsoever. Her facebook link is also located in the link within her bio.  Be sure to also follow my other social media accounts located on home page for upcoming blog posts in the near future! Take care.

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“It’s a Business and You’re a Product”- The powerful Journey with Singer/Songwriter Emily Hatton

“It’s a Business and You’re a Product”- The powerful Journey with Singer/Songwriter Emily Hatton


Hello my beauts, I hope you guys are all doing well and having a great day so far!  There are always things in life you wish or dreamt you could do. I know for a fact I always wished I could sing or dance. I envy people who have this talent, it’s so beautiful, peaceful and relaxing listening to someone sing. One fact you beauts didn’t know about me was I used to be able to sing! I was actually in theatre for a couple years when I was younger and were in two plays called, “Joseph and the amazing technicolour Dreamcoat’,  and also, “Not just another variety show”. In Not just another variety show, I had to sing a duet with a young girl and it was amazing. You really felt all eyes on you, and we took over the stage. But then something happened…. you guessed it…. puberty. Gotta love it that’s for sure. I stopped singing after that because I could not sing as high as I used to anymore. But hey that’s okay because there are other people in this world who I can listen to and admire. But there is one girl in particular that stood out to me and has for a while. I never have done a collaboration with a singer before, but I thought, “hey... why the hell not?”. This girl resembles a Disney Princess, as her friends like to call her, is a qualified teacher, and is trained in Advanced Wildness First Aid. Sounds legit right? This girl is everything, let alone one of the most beautiful singers inside and out that I have ever heard of. I had the absolute privilege and opportunity to collaborate on a blog post with the gorgeous Emily Hatton.


Emily from Melbourne Australia, calls herself a daydreamer, she smells like “Pink Sugar” (the perfume she has been wearing since she was 16 years old),  likes baking healthified treats, and loves coffee. She sounds like my kind of friend I need in my life!  Emily enjoys going to the gym 5 times a week and would rather spend a day hiking than watching a movie inside, even though she adores movies! In fact, her most recent favourite movie is “The Edge of Seventeen“. Hey, Emily, this is also one of my favourite movies as well. I absolutely am addicted to it!  Lately, though, Emily has been collecting succulent plants. One thing you need to know about her is that she is a deep thinker, she appreciates sarcasm and is someone who believes in kindness. Emily states, “ the most common thing observation I hear when someone meets me is, “you’re tall for a girl,” and so now my typical response is, “Thank you. Now that you mention it… my face is further from the ground than other people.”That’s me in a nutshell. (I’m the nut.) “. HA! I absolutely love this, this sounds like we are going to get along already!

Moving onto Emily’s singing I began to ask her basic questions leading into it. I asked Emily at what age did she start singing. She replied, “literally when I was born. My mum tells me she knew I was going to be a singer because my cry was so clear.I also have a VHS of me when I was four, sitting on a couch, singing a whole bunch of songs to the camera for about an hour and a half. Because that’s all I wanted to do. Mum also told me that as a kid, I perpetually sang in the bath, so she always knew I hadn’t drowned. She would only run in if I stopped singing”. That’s a perfect idea! You knew from a very young age then Emily! I was also curious if Emily knew any instruments or not. This has always been a dream of mine as well, to play instruments especially the piano. I would’ve loved to have done this. Emily states, “I learnt cello in school. I don’t play anymore though. My mum taught me the piano. I stopped lessons in about seventh grade, but I’m still pretty fluent, though I’ve always been better doing stuff by ear, rather than sight reading.    My main instrument now is guitar. I’m self-taught. I picked one up for the first time when I was nineteen and became obsessed with it. It’s the first thing I go to when I’m writing songs.  Oh, and I know four chords on the ukulele. Next on my list is the banjo”. That’s amazing Em! I am so proud of you for being so engaged in musical instruments, that’s great! That is a true talent that’s for sure.  Self-taught is crazy good! That’s unbelievable, I don’t know if I could ever do that but koodoos to you!! Keep on going girl!


I also wanted to know if Emily wrote any of her own songs at all, and if so who inspires her to write her songs. Emily explains, “I sure do. My songs are like my therapy. My inspiration is my emotions. I’m a very positive, happy person, and when something affects me in a negative way, the first thing I turn to is music. For example, when I’m feeling really sad about something that’s happened in my life, and I’m trying to sort through thoughts in my head, writing is the best way to figure things out. It makes me concisely express what I’m conflicted by in that moment, and stops the spiral of confusion. It clears my mind. If I feel like screaming for whatever reason, I’ll incorporate that into a belt (a loud, long, high note) in my song. If I’m super angry, and I don’t know how else to get the frustration out, I write lyrics that I would want the other person to hear, but I try to make them smart. Not just making fun, or whatever. It’s like being able to yell everything you’re feeling, but people actually listen until you’re finished. It’s great. And I try to not be mean or vengeful, but sometimes, a song can literally be the initial, emotional reaction that in reality, that only lasts for a few hours. But writing helps dissipate that, and I can actually get over things very quickly nowadays. On the other hand, if something really strikes me with joy, I’m likely to write a song about that too. For example, meeting my American relatives for the first time. They welcomed me in so warmly and made me feel so part of the family, I had to write a thank you letter, in the form of a song. I played it for them and ended up making some of them cry. I think if you can make someone cry with music, you’ve done something right haha”.  That is for sure Emily, that is so amazing, you should be so proud of yourself!  Touching people in that way is absolutely beautiful and so nice to see and watch.


I know that Emily enjoys country music so I had to ask her who inspired her to get into country music. Emily replied, “Oh my goodness. A great mix actually! One of my dad’s favourite artists is James Taylor, and we did a lot of long drives together when I was younger, so I have many memories of Dad singing along to the CD’s in the car. My favourite of his is “Copperline.” I love, love, love Shania Twain. My dad can vouch that there are a few songs I played ad nauseam when I was younger, much to his annoyance, and, “Man! I Feel Like a Woman!” and, “That Don’t Impress Me Much,” were two of them. A few years back, I discovered and fell in love with The Band Perry and absolutely adored their style. Kimberly Perry reminded me of the Dixie Chicks and their beautiful tones and I always aim to emulate that super smooth, perfectly pitched way of singing. From then on, I started actively looking for other bands in the genre. I also had a singing teacher in high school tell me my voice was suited to country, and back then I actually laughed. Now, I want to hug her. My other biggest country influencers are Lady Antebellum, Rascal Flatts and Faith Hill”.  I also wanted to know what types of genres Emily sings when she is in the zone. Emily stated that she sings mostly country and pop music, in fact, that is how she loves to write her songs. Emily also explains, “I love the melodic elements, the poetic and metaphoric style, and how it can have contrasting sultry ballads as well as boppy, fun tunes. But I am also known to sing along to musical theatre and Disney, of course”.  You know who Emily reminds me of when she sings? She reminds me of Taylor Swift, I can hear it in her voice, what do you beauts think? Emily was so kind as to send me the newest song she wrote just for me to listen to. I was absolutely honoured and could not express how generous that was of her to do! What a sweetheart. She reminded me of T-Swift the whole entire time, I had goosebumps! What a true talent she has. It’s unbelievable.


I know we are all dying to know if Emily has performed on a stage before and what not! I know I am dying to know! With a talent like that, it needs to be shown off for sure! Emily states, “Small stages, yeah. Not counting high school, I’ve done a couple of gigs around Melbourne. It’s my goal to play on a stage somewhere like the Grand Ole Opry, someday. Or the CMA’s. And around the world on my own headlining tours, of course”.  That’s a great goal to have Emily, I know you can do it if you put your mind and heart to it, you got this!

Besides singing, what are your other hobbies? “I love trying new things, so generally I’ll have a new obsession every week. Recently, random things include sewing, gardening, and colouring. But the recurring things are cooking, camping and hiking, yoga and kettlebell classes, reading, and patting my pet rabbit. I also watch hours of F.R.I.E.N.D.S, and lately, Gilmore Girls, because who doesn’t want to loiter in an idealistic world every now and then? Before I started giving everything to music, it was acting. So that’s another hobby now. I would easily commit to either, and ideally both, for the rest of my life”. 

“It’s a business, and you’re a product”- Emily Hatton


I also wanted to know if there were any of Emily’s family members who were involved in music and enjoyed music. Emily expresses, “My mum is a music teacher, and mostly listens to classical music. My dad has always, always had music playing constantly. Namely Phil Collins & Genesis, Sting & the Police, James Taylor, Pink Floyd, Leo Sayer, Eric Clapton, Elton John and ABBA”.  Wow, so music runs in the family Emily! That’s amazing! That really does help a lot that is for sure!

Did you know you always wanted to be in the music industry? Oh, yeah. It wasn’t always crystal clear to me in which capacity I wanted to pursue it, but I always knew I had to sing. I tried musical theatre for a while. I love it, but I love performing my own songs more” . That’s great! You are really going far Emily, keep up the great work!

I was also curious as to how long Emily practices singing for within her daily schedule. With a voice like that, I was very curious! Emily states,”literally all the time. I practice shamelessly in the car, in the shower, while I’m cooking, and even quietly on the train, while people are staring at me. Sometimes I’m singing, and I think it’s in my head, until someone comments on the song, and I realise it’s out loud”.  That’s hilarious! Good for you! It takes a lot of confidence to be on that level and it seems like you have a ton which is amazing. I only strive to have that much like you Emily!


Who are your favourite musicians? “Oh my gosh, so many. There’s a massive variety of humans who inspire me, whose albums I’ve listened to so many times I’ve lost count, and also have influenced my style. Off the top of my head: The Band Perry, The Dixie Chicks, Shania Twain, Avril Lavigne, James Taylor, Lady Antebellum, Billy Joel, Maroon 5, Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin, Bobby Darin, and Hunter Hayes. I also, in general, love 80’s pop & rock. It’s my favourite era for music because of its expression of vocal harmonies, drum beats, chord progressions, and general energies of the music, including the creative risks artists took”.


While summing up this interview and questionnaire, I wanted to ask Emily some more intense and personal questions! I began to ask Emily if there was a piece of advice she would give to someone just starting out in this career path. Emily explains, “Stay positive. It’s so easy to lose motivation, feel like you’re getting nowhere, or take rejection personally. One of my favourite quotes that I live by is, “get comfortable with being uncomfortable.” It’s a life thing. It’s when you grow, and become better. To get where you want to be, you have to work hard, accept failure, try and try again, and if things still aren’t going the way you planned, try different methods and be open to broader ideas of making your dreams a reality. Like, other ways you can still be involved in the business you love, just taking the long way ‘round to reaching your destination. If you really want something, if you can’t stop picturing it, if it fills you with joy and vibrancy, give it everything you’ve got. Learn from people who are where you want to be. And then help others up to where you’ve progressed. Network, share, love what other people are doing, and be grateful for where you are. And be there in person. It’s a process. There are milestones, but there’s not really a point when anyone’s “made it.” In reality, you’re just doing the same thing you’ve always done. Just the stakes get higher. The stage and the audience get bigger. But everything is an ongoing effort and commitment”.  I think I am going to go to Emily for advice from now on! She pretty much summed it up and that was beautiful to read. I am sure someone will benefit greatly from these words of advice, so thank you for sharing Emily!

Lastly, I asked Emily where she sees herself 5 years from now. “I see myself very clearly on tour, having released an album, wearing some sort of sparkly dress, smiling. Because I get to call what I love my job”.  That’s amazing Emily! How talented is she though? If you have not checked Emily out and her amazing voice be sure to head on over to her Instagram page at “Emhat”, and check her out! Her videos are amazing, and her voice is stunning. I have been hooked on Emily for a while now and knew I had to reach out to her to share her talent and story with you beauts that’s for sure. So please go show her some love!


I want to personally thank Emily from the bottom of my heart for agreeing to collaborate with me on this blog post and opening up about her singing and music journey. Emily you are so so talented and deserve the best in life. Emily was such a sweet girl to work with, so pleasurable and nice! I know you are going to go far one day and when you are on stage, think of me 🙂 So be sure to go follow her Instagram page and check her out, she would love that! Also be sure to follow my other social media sites located on my homepage for upcoming blogs in the near future, thanks again!

As Emily Hatton says it! “Much love ” xo.


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Dear 23-Year-Old Self 

Dear 23-Year-Old Self 


It’s me again, I hope you beauts are having a wonderful Tuesday so far! Last time I wrote to you it was for my 16-year -old self which I found rather refreshing. Of course, if I had to go back in time, or tell my daughter in the future about my 16-year-old self I would remind her of a bunch of things, the do’s and dont’s of life, the ups and downs, the yeses and nos of life and so forth. But I don’t think I have touched on the later years in life that are shortly down the road.  I think it is so important to write dear letters, especially to yourself, it allows you to see things from a different perspective and get all your thoughts down on paper. A lot has happened since I was 16 to now 23 and I feel that I need to remind myself a lot of things, with regards to the struggles I went through to the great memories I cherish.


Dear 23-year-old self,

You made it. You’re here. In fact, you’re almost halfway to 30, so take a step back, pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself. This wasn’t easy I know, in fact, if I had to do it over again there are things I would do differently and change, but unfortunately, we cannot turn back time, just keep moving forward. 23 is a big year and a lot of things are happening in your 20’s. You most likely are almost done school or decided to maybe continue education like yourself and I am proud of you for doing that. I know you did not want to go back to school again, 4 years of university is a lot, and I know you get really down and hard on yourself. School was not easy for you. You had a controlling boyfriend over the years of university who reminded you how dumb you were and laughed at your ideas. But you proved him wrong. You walked across that stage proudly and accepted your diploma and got your degree. You met another young man who accepted your flaws and would remind you how creative and smart you were, you did good kid. So you did it. You completed that phase in your life, and when another opportunity came up years down the road you took it. That is one thing I want to emphasize the importance of 23-year-old self. When opportunities come your way grab them. Do not be afraid of what’s going to happen next, but take advantage of things coming your way. And your opportunity was social work, and being accepted into a college to continue your education. I am so proud of you. I know a lot more opportunities will come your way after receiving this diploma. But aside from school, there are other changes you are experiencing right now. It’s a word that starts with an “A”. You guessed it. Adulthood. If I had to explain adulthood in one sentence, it would not be easy. We all experience things at different speeds in life, but if I really had to say something I would say this, ” Adulthood isn’t easy”. I wish I was prepared more. But nobody really informed me what was coming my way. I have never really shared a house with someone, especially my significant other before.  If I had to give you one piece of advice 23-year-old self, it would be that you made the right move. Sure you had your fights here and there but you tried something new. You had to accommodate and adapt to living with someone else and that is never easy. You really learn a lot about someone once you live with them. Overall, it was a great step and a big one at that. I think you made the right move.


Dear 23-year-old self, 

Mental illness runs in your family, we all know that. In fact, I think everyone suffers a bit from mental illness in their life, the severity of it depends on the coping skills you know and the strategies that work for you. You found out after 23 years that you developed social anxiety and you never knew you had it. I think you secretly knew something was up, but never thought anything of it. I am so proud of you for doing something about it. You challenged yourself and took it on.  Some people struggle and just keep struggling but you wanted to do something about it which is amazing. Not only did you attend meetings every Wednesday for two hours, but you blogged about your journey to share with others and that takes courage. I know you love helping people and that’s why you chose to do that. You are an inspiration to others and I am not too sure if you see that just yet. Don’t worry, one day you will take a step back and notice the little things you do in life that are amazing, like yourself. Not only have you improved on your social anxiety but you have attended several interviews since then. This was not an easy step for you to accomplish and do. You hate interviews. It’s the fact of not knowing what will come next, or what if you say something stupid and they look at you funny. It’s all these “what-ifs”, but for some reason, in these last few recent interviews, you did not ask those in your mind. You focused on how well you were going to do and believed in yourself. You trusted yourself. If there is one piece of advice I would give to you 23-year-old self it would be to trust yourself and to give yourself a chance in life. Have some faith and hope and use your coping statements, you got this. You are improving every single day, did you notice that? Did you take a step back today to notice your accomplishments? You should do that just to remind yourself. 23 is not an easy year nor is ageing into your 20’s. I honestly wish they had a pamphlet to tell you the do’s and don’ts but then again, you wouldn’t learn from your mistakes. 23-year-old self you have made so many mistakes in life, but you are still here, learning from them, and doing better the next time. That’s all I can ask for. So thank you for making this a not so hard letter for me to write, sure I could write down all the things you did wrong and let you know how badly you messed up but where is the positive in that? I know 24 is going to be the year for you, I can feel it. Thanks for making 23 a good year for me, you have come a long way, as Tom Delonge would say it, “Life’s just waiting to begin”.

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Dear Girl Afraid of Falling Behind

Dear Girl Afraid of Falling Behind


Dear girl afraid of falling behind, 

You’re not alone trust me. There are days where I look around me and wonder “Why don’t I have a big girl job yet?”, or how come I can’t seem to find a job in my field. Sure I have had babysitting and nanny jobs in the past but it’s not the same. I did not go to Brock University for 4 years to come out and apply for waitressing jobs. I am behind, everyone is going forward without me, and I am stuck. I want to scream for the world to slow down so I can quickly move up and not be so far behind. I am almost 24 years old, I should have my life together by now, I should be out of school, having my career dream job, starting a family in the next 5 years but somehow I feel so behind. Why? Don’t you hate that? Your thoughts in your head that won’t shut off even when you close your eyes to sleep and turn off the world around you? There are some days where I feel on top of the world as if no one can get on my level and bring me down. Other days I drown in my thoughts and wonder why I am moving so slow through life when others around me are running through it. It makes me feel like a failure. Welcome to my negative side. She often comes out when there are too many thoughts strolling and wandering through my mind. She’s terrible but doesn’t know it. I hate when she comes out, it’s as if everything I do is not good enough, that I need to try harder in life to succeed. But what if I let her win? What if everything I did I considered a failure in life? I would be miserable. I would hate who I was as an individual and I would be so burnt out from trying too hard. I am not going to let her win. She can’t and doesn’t deserve to. She’s miserable and that’s no way to live. What if I told her to look at things from a different perspective? Then what. 


Dear girl afraid of falling behind, 

Did you tell her? Let’s take a second to break down those things you see as “failures in life”. So you don’t have a big girl job yet, so what. Sure you want one, but how did you get that degree in the first place? By studying, by sleepless nights, by breakdowns, by endless amounts of presentations and assignments, and by four years of hard work. Now take a step back and ask yourself, “Do you really see that as a failure?”. Or those of you who have tried school and can’t seem to find the right program for yourselves. That’s okay because guess what. I thought I was going to be a teacher since I was 5 years old, and I found out that just wasn’t the right career path for me. So I tried a new route and love the program I am in right now. There are so many different programs out there that how the hell are you supposed to narrow it down and just chose one? It takes time, and I feel like everyone thinks time just runs out like that. Sure we grow older and get wrinkles eventually but that’s years down the road, not tomorrow, not the next day, or the day after that. You have TIME. And we need to reassure ourselves that we do. Even if we take a second out of our days to remind ourselves about this, that’s okay. I have to remind myself that I am not behind in life, that I am not falling behind. In fact, I am taking my time. I am not rushing, I am simply waiting for opportunities to come and find me as if it’s a game. I have been hiding for so long, that I think my hiding spot is too good for opportunities to find me. But then again, everything happens for a reason, and I truly believe in that saying and live by it. So girl afraid of falling behind, you’re only 2 seconds behind, not a year, not 2, not 3. It’s okay to not be on the same route as everyone else, and it’s okay to take that extra time for yourself to figure out what you truly want in life. Decisions are difficult. And it’s okay to take time for them.

Dear girl afraid of falling behind, 

Focus on you. Focus on which plan you want to do next and stop worrying about the speed around you, you’ll get there. I know it feels like your miles behind but you’re not. Don’t let her win. There are times she’ll try to make you feel like you’re nothing, that you’re a failure, but you are far from that. Look at your accomplishments and everything you’ve done in life, it was not easy to get there, you worked for it. Even though time does not stop and people are continuing on with their lives around you, you go at your pace. Jobs will always be there, school will always be there and you’ve got nothing but time, endless amounts of it. You go do things at your own speed and life will accommodate you, trust me. I believe in you, and you’re never far behind. Things happen for a reason and always remind yourself of that. 

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