Goals for 2020? Pfft…You need to see my achievements in 2019 first.

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Hello my beauts and sweets! Lyss here, and boy am I excited you are here to listen. More importantly, I am glad you have decided to pop by and take a peek at my blog… specifically this exact post. Recently we all just celebrated a brand new year, 2020. Wow. Whether you were in your jammies, all dressed up and fancy or even just playing a game of scrabble, as soon as it hit midnight, it happened. A new year has begun and you know what that means? It’s time to reflect. I love taking a step back and analyzing what the actual hell happened in 2019. Often however, I feel like we analyze the year and automatically think how we can improve ourselves for the next year. We analyze every single fuck up we made, and think how we can improve on that. Trust me, that’s fantastic we want to improve on ourselves and we will get there. But in reality, did you take the ten minutes on New Years Eve, New Years Day or this past week and acknowledge all the accomplishments you achieved this past year? Want to know a secret? My brain automatically jumped to, “how can I improve”, or “what new years resolution will I create for myself this year?“. My brain didn’t stop and congratulate myself on my achievements big or small from this past year. In fact, I had to really sit back and think hard about what I really was proud of, isn’t that sad? I hate how little I give myself credit at times. As humans, we are so hard on ourselves, it’s so insane but it’s also reality. So I want to take a second and ask you, “What were you proud of in 2019?”.8B75B8B3-D5B8-407E-B6D7-303268408FAE

Sure, maybe it was not the greatest year of all time. Maybe you had a severe heartbreak, maybe you got written up at your job, maybe you got fired from a job, had a falling out with the family or even had a death happen within the family. Life is tough, it throws curveballs at you and expects you to just get over things. That is not always the case. Even so, that certain event that had taken place may even have ruined your year of 2019. For two seconds, I want you to open your mind to a positive viewpoint. Push past that negative voice digging at you to only remember that unfortunate event. I know deep down you had some pretty amazing things happen to you this year. Even if they are the tiniest little things, I want you to make a list. Read it. Share it. Embrace it. In fact, I sat back and wrote a small list myself.

  1. Remember the time at work when you were involved with Summer Program, and your boss mentioned to you that a parent was wondering if you worked at the Daycare as well? Remember when you were not super close with this child, but apparently she had mentioned you at home so many times and how much of an impact you had on her? That was a pretty damn good feeling.
  2. Remember that time you gave your dad an amazing birthday present? Remember how you left him speechless, and you had a drawing created for him by an artist. This amazing artist drew your dad, aunt and their deceased mother hugging them. Do you remember how beautiful this moment was?
  3. Remember when you went on your first beautiful vacation with the love of your life? You went on your first cruise and shared so many amazing memories together. You visited different places and cherished the time you spent.
  4. Remember how many amazing companies you got to collaborate with? How many friendships you created online and the beautiful comments the companies stated about your work ethic? I do.
  5. Remember the time you brought your coworker a muffin and a tea from timmies unexpectedly. She was having an off day and you wanted to change her mood.

Honest to god, when it hit 2020, I was set and ready. I was ready to improve on so many different things which is amazing. There’s always room for improvement, but I forgot to take the time to give myself a pat on the back. This really hasn’t been the easiest year in the world. A lot of shit has happened, a lot that I didn’t think I was strong enough to get through. I have never really taken the time to say, “wow…. you are one badass bitch”. I honestly needed to hear that. Take the time to pat yourself on the back, think about what an amazing human being you were this year, and congratulate yourself, you made it. You are here. You are jumping into 2020. Hold on tight.
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When it comes to 2020, I literally think, “holy hell”. This has to be the best year right? I need this to be the best damn year yet, after all…. it’s 2020. I know for a fact that my nutrition needed to change for the better, I need a smoking hot ass body this year for sure. I picture myself as those fit models on Instagram. Often I jump to these huge goals that kind of scare the shit out of me to be quite honest. Taking baby steps is always the best idea and I need to remind myself of that. Instead of waking up wishing I had Jillian Michael’s body, I will try to drink more water and cut out some of the junk food I munch on daily. Creating smaller goals will help ease you into the year, they are attainable they are achievable. This year, I am for sure going to create smaller goals for myself. As much as I would love to just say, “I want a hot body“, I am going to focus more on being optimistic and encouraging myself on the daily. A few goals that I have in mind would be to create more conversations amongst coworkers, try to make more eye contact (even if it’s only for a few seconds), wake up everyday and really try to go into work with a positive attitude. While working on these smaller goals, I am going to encourage myself, and acknowledge when I make small progress. If I ask Sally at work if she had a great weekend and what her plans were….. you better be damned I am going to congratulate myself for that effort. One piece of advice that I am going to offer to you beauts is to love yourself for the small progress you make. To be quite honest, I have not been doing this too often and I am going to work on this! I really hope you do too! Creating a more optimistic lifestyle is never an easy thing to do, but it is something that can be worked on!
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So when someone asks you what your goals are for 2020, go ahead and make your list. But I want you to answer this question first, “What accomplishments happened in 2019 and what are you proud of?”. Even though it may have not been the year of your dreams, I know for sure you did something in that year that impacted someone else in a positive way. Keep doing YOU.

Biggest Lifestyle changes I’ve made 2017

Biggest Lifestyle changes I’ve made 2017


Hey beauts ! Hope you all are having a wonderful week so far , mine is going alright I can’t complain whatsoever. Let’s talk about that wicked snow storm yesterday though , that was crazy ! I still made it to the gym however , I couldn’t believe it was still open ! I literally took that chance and risked it , literally waiting for them to close and send everyone home. Luckily that didn’t happen and I was able to get my leg workout in … thank god!  Actually , this blog post today has a bit to do about the gym to be honest ! This post I have actually been inspired to do recently as I have noticed quite a few changes in how I am feeling each day in regards to my mindset and physical changes in my body. This post today is about different lifestyle changes that I have made recently over the past two months . I know what you guys are thinking … lyss … it’s only been two months this isn’t really a lifestyle change yet ! I am quite determined to keep these changes persistent however , which is my long term goal ! I wanted to share with you guys some of my secrets and decisions I have made to help live a healthier lifestyle . So shall we get right into it then or what ?

Eating breakfast every day 

This step is absolutely huge for me and I can say I am super proud of myself for accomplishing this step . From someone who suffered from eating disorders for a long period of time , I can proudly say that I am not skipping breakfast anymore. I mostly skipped breakfast in regards to my eating disorders and because I would not be hungry getting up super early for work. I have heard over and over again , ” breakfast is the most important meal of the day“, and it’s true . Breakfast is such an important meal and fuels your body for the beginning of the day. I got up one morning and decided , “ hey let’s try this out … I know it’s 6 am but what’s the harm“. This was around the time when I joined the gym . Now , I actually eat breakfast at 6 am every single day , aside from the weekend . I usually make a bunch of different breakfasts to munch on each morning! Some of these include : oatmeal , smoothie bowls and yogurt with granola . I will post down below the ingredients to each breakfast meal for you beauts !


Yogurt with granola

  • granola clusters
  • plain Greek yogurt or vanilla Greek yogurt
  • Chia seeds
  • hemp seeds
  • Flaxseeds
  • Fruit such as bananas, raspberries and blueberries

Oatmeal

  • 1/2 cup of quick minute oats
  • 1 cup almond milk
  • Chia seeds
  • Hemp seeds
  • Flaxseeds
  • Fruit
  • 1 tablespoon of natural peanut butter

Smoothie bowl

  • As much almond milk as desired
  • Fruit ( variety)
  • Chia seeds
  • Hemp seeds
  • Flaxseeds
  • Pinch of shredded coconut
  • 1 cup of spinach
  • Bits of granola clusters

Voila ! You have yourself a bunch of delish breakfast meals for you beauts to try out ! I absolutely love eating these in the morning , they provide my body with the proper energy needed each day. The only meal that took me a while to get used to was the plain Greek yogurt, I am not a huge fan of the taste but once fruit is added , it makes a huge difference!

Exercising each day 

This step is big , I find that if I do not exercise now I am a bit miserable and not feeling my best . I love how I have incorporated fitness into my daily routine now which makes me feel unreal . I usually work around 8-5 each day so I plan to go to my gym around 8 at night when it is the least busiest . It took me a while to motivate myself to use the gym and join one . Being a person who suffers from social anxiety … it’s not an easy step that’s for sure. It took me a bit to find the right gym to join and also to feel the most comfortable at . I knew for a fact I was not going to like a co-ed gym , just because I would feel more comfortable working out at an all girls gym. I also did not want a gym that was extremely busy either , my gym is perfect. I have managed to gather enough courage to go to the gym by myself , which I now prefer. I have also made a gym schedule which hangs on my fridge letting me know what muscle group to work on each day . Today is arms and cardio ! Wish me luck !

Drinking more water 

This was extremely  hard for me and not an easy step whatsoever . So I gave up pop guys ! Well not completely and entirely ! The only time I drink it is for a chase for a night out with my alcohol ... that’s it ! How proud are you of me ?! I was literally addicted to pop and I mean addicted. I love the burn when it goes down your throat and would probably drink pop every single day . It was bad , and I would drink coke which was the worst kind ever . But now when I wake up I have my coffee or tea and then I go straight away to work on my bottle of water . I am not 100% sure how much water I drink daily , I just usually go by my water bottle which is a fairly good size ! I drink two of these before lunch and two after lunch , then one at the gym ! So I am getting a fair amount of water in which is unreal and I am proud of myself ! I have noticed a huge different in my acne as well after drinking lots of water and staying away from the sugary drinks! My face has cleared up a whole ton which I am super happy about . I also am not as bloated during the day at all , which I used to always be and it was an awful feeling .

Doing therapy and bettering myself mentally 


I am so proud of myself for attending therapy every Wednesday . I have noticed such an improvement every single week and even writing this out I am smiling . I am so much more confident when it comes to socializing with people and to think a therapy group caused this and has benefited me a ton . I personally think the exposures has helped out a lot which is wonderful but they were not the easiest let me tell you that ! When I actually sit back and think about where I am today I am so proud . It takes courage to recognize you need help and need that extra therapy to get back on your feet and that’s okay. This group has completely pushed me out of my comfort zone and I remember telling my therapist, ” I will not do group therapy ” I would rather do individualised therapy . I was so afraid that it would be just like the movies and that I would absolutely hate going … more like dread it . I am excited going to therapy now that I have joined my group therapy for social anxiety . I am proud to tell the instructors what I have been working on and to let them know the difference I am seeing and feeling … it’s incredible . I highly recommend taking part in a group therapy if you are struggling with social anxiety like I am . I have benefited so much and I am still constantly learning each week . This is only an 8 week course which is great , and you could choose whether you wanted to go in the evenings or the mornings ! I am glad that I am bettering myself mentally and taking care of my mental health. I was so sick of this getting in the way of life that something needed to be done, best decision I have ever made. 

Blogging more and putting aside time for you hobbies 


As you guys have guessed it one of my favourite things to do in my spare time is blog . I absolutely love taking the time to share my thoughts and feelings with you beauts ! There was however, a chunk of time where I kind of pushed blogging to the side and didn’t really contribute to it for a while . This was when I was in a rut and going through a lot of things , I was not inspired and was not feeling my best . Now that I have started back up with blogging I can not stop! I think it annoys my boyfriend at times when I am constantly sitting on my computer typing away and not spending quality time with him ! Haha ! But hey it’s what I like doing . Of course I balance my blogging with other things in life but I do make sure I put the time aside for my blogging . I find that this is an extremely important thing to do when trying to be happy and live a more content life. You need to do you. If you love shopping then put time aside to shop, if you love reading then read your favourite book each night before you go to bed.  I know for a fact this has affected me positively and I feel inspired all the time these days to keep writing and come up with more things for you guys ! I have to remind myself , ” hey lyss.,.. you just uploaded a blog yesterday relax“. Way too funny but I am not complaining .

Getting enough sleep and having a routine


I know this is a given but it is so crucial . I recently have developed a sleep routine now which I follow every single night . I usually always go to bed around 10- 10:30 each night considering I am up at around 6 each day ! I find that getting to bed a little earlier helps me out for the morning and being able to function and be able to get up ! I also make sure that I am following the same routine ie:

  •  brush teeth
  •  wash face
  •  climb into bed
  • spray pillow with lavender mist
  • apply night face cream
  • Put on Chapstick
  • Apply lavender cream on hands
  • Turn on humidifier and fan

Goodnight ! Sleep tight !

Well I hope you guys enjoyed this blog post ! Those are basically the biggest changes I have made in regards to bettering my health and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Are there any different ways you beauts have changed your lifestyles? If so comment below and let me know ! Make sure to follow all my other social media pages to keep updated with everything !

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