My Personal Tinder/Bumble Horror Stories Part 2

Good morning my beauts, and welcome to my channel where I discuss all my wonderful Tinder and Bumble horror stories for you guys. Honestly, who doesn’t like to fool around on these dating apps? Sometimes, well most of the time I am pretty serious about these apps and I am genuinely looking for someone that has the potential to date. I literally have my list and follow that when seeing what I want in a man. I personally think there is nothing wrong with this whatsoever, and everyone should have some standards when trying to find the right man. So you can usually get a feel for someone when you are figuring them out, what they like and how their personality is. Well honest to god these individuals just set themselves up for failure like in my last blog post on my tinder and bumble experiences.

 I can truly say congrats to these fine man, you are famous and made the cut for my blog post! I can honestly say these are probably some of my favourite conversations by far, and I know you guys got a kick out of my last blog post with my horror stories, so I had to come up with a part two for you beauts. So sit back, probably grab an alcoholic drink, I am personally drinking a rum and coke while typing this, and enjoy these beauties.

This one is probably one of my favourites, I met this guy through Tinder and we started chatting one evening. He seemed pretty chill and down to earth, did not seem creepy whatsoever. So we got chatting and then he randomly asks me, “do you ever horseback ride?“, and I personally thought nothing of this whatsoever, I legit thought that he wanted to be romantic and go horseback riding… boy was I wrong.  So me being stupid I’m like, “I haven’t gone in forever!” and so on. It’s funny because I was literally reading this out loud to my mom, I thought he was being all cute and romantic because no guy has ever asked me that before, (mom deff called what was going to happen next, I was too oblivious). When he responded with the horse costume I almost spit out my rum and coke everywhere, literally, like full blown. I could not believe that he texted that to me, it was absolutely hilarious and completely random as hell. Kudos to you my dear friend, you sure know how to be romantic.  Can we ride away into the sunset together?

This next one, you can tell I was starting to get annoyed as everyone on the site was either perverted or drove me nuts. I for sure got a kick out of it though. So I started chatting with this good looking guy and I felt like we were hitting it off okay! Then he starts talking about how sore his neck is, and I am completely ignoring the obvious, like buddy I personally don’t care. Then he has the balls to ask if I will “volunteer”, (VOLUNTEER?!, cause that sounds like a shit ton of fun) to massage it. My response? “Do I look like your slave”?“. Needless to say, he was unmatched right away. Or I would’ve been unmatched but beat him to it.

This next one I again was joking around and made a common mistake on purpose that some girls make, this is moving way too fast. Sure I have a list that I look for in a guy, and it’s just simple things such as if you are caring, sensitive and so forth, usually never go this far when it comes to expectations but I was extremely curious as to what he would say! I literally laughed out loud at his reply, and let him know after I was joking around. But girls, don’t move too fast or you will scare the hell outta the guy and he will dip forever, trust me.

The next guy that I was talking to I found on bumble and he was gorgeous, we hit it off pretty good and actually hung out at his place the one day. So everything was going well and what not, then out of nowhere he was asking about my dating life which is completely fine I am an open person and don’t mind sharing. So he wanted to see some pictures of the guys so I showed him and then he got all quiet about one guy in particular. I asked if maybe he knew the guy or something and he said his friend has been seeing him for two months now, (aka, I just went on a date with this guy about a month ago…. awkward). Apparently, he had keys to this girl’s apartment and everything I couldn’t believe what a player he was. I obviously had no connection with this guy whatsoever but I just felt bad for the other girl he was playing, I can’t stand guys like that, have some respect for women. That guy is long gone and I pray he changes his ways or he’s going to get nowhere in life.

So as you can see I have had my fair share of keepers, and I hope you beauts enjoyed this part 2 of these mini-series. I find these stories absolutely hilarious and I hope you guys did too. Again congrats to the individuals who made the cut, and goodluck! Be sure to follow my other social media accounts located on my homepage for more blogs in the near future. Take care and much love xo.

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My Collaboration with “Kroma” Phone Cases !

Good morning my beauts, and welcome to my channel if you are new! My names Alyssa and I have been blogging for several years now, it’s my favourite hobby by far. I absolutely love doing collaborations with companies and meeting new people on Instagram and all over the world. I have been busy working away as a nanny and have been focusing on new collaborations with different companies. I recently came across a company on Instagram which offered new items then I am used to collaborating with. This company specializes in lifestyle accessories for women, and little pick me ups for the everyday. The company offered changeable backplates for your phone which is super easy to change for any occasion.  Not going to lie, I had to ask Joanne, a lady who I spoke from the Company, about the cases and how they worked. I only ever used normal phone cases and was not used to a changeable backing and a frame, but once I received the cases in the mail, they were super easy to work with and change as well for any occasion.  The company who I reached out to is called, “Kroma“, and Joanne was a pleasure to speak to and work with. She was super down to earth, and very friendly as well. At Kroma, they celebrate diversity, and they also encourage everyone to embrace their own definition of beauty, style and fashion which is amazing, I absolutely love this. At Kroma, there are core values that are represented, these values include:

Diversity– Allow for self-expression and embrace the inclusion of different types of people.

Empowerment– Empower yourself and give strength to others.

Creativity  Keep an open mind and use our imagination to create innovative designs and products.

Sustainability Consider the environment, waste generated and human health.

Want to know a fun fact about KromaCases? They are baby, toddler and kid proof! These phone cases can withstand the everyday drops, smashes and knocks by children. I absolutely love this considering I am a nanny and I am always around children especially a 10-month-old baby girl who enjoys throwing my phone around when she gets the chance, and placing my phone in her mouth…. yummy! But Kroma didn’t stop there, the phone cases meet FDA food-grade standards and they are completely free of Bisphenol F (BPF) and phthalates.  Kroma phone cases passed the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) safety test for food contact. As well as the European Union’s ROHS guideline, Apple’s Regulated Substances Specification, and California’s Proposition 65 Standards. Also, SGS tests were involved to ensure that Kroma cases are 100% free of chemicals and metal potentially toxic to humans, such as BPA, BPS, BPF, phthalates, led an mercury.

Now, I know what you beauts are thinking, what the heck is BPA, because honestly, I had no idea. BPA is a chemical that is found in many different plastic products and it causes many different harmful effects on humans such as on the brain, and behaviour of fetuses, infants and children. So this is honestly something that I had no idea about and would’ve never known, but using Kroma cases makes me feel much better about everything and knowing it’s not harming me or people who come into contact with my phone.

Something else that I found really neat about the Kroma phone cases is that they are powered by Rhinoshield which is known for providing maximum impact protection with a minimalist footprint, this is amazing. I don’t know about you beauts but I am known for dropping my phone all the time, so these cases are so ideal for me. I absolutely love mine. The material for the phone cases is super lightweight and super thin which is awesome.

Cleaning your Kroma Case

It is always such a pain trying to clean your phone case, and not get it dirty with greasy hands and what not. Thank goodness it is super easy to clean your Kroma phone case! First, you simply are going to clean your frame. Simply use a light alcohol based cleaner not too long after the staining occurs. However, avoid using the alcohol-based solvents too often as this could over time degrade the coating.

Next, you are going to clean your backplates, which can be easily cleaned with water. Try not to use any alcohol based solvents on the backplates when cleaning. That’s it. How easy is that! I love it. Also if you go to their website, you can see and read different reviews from individuals who have purchased these cases, which is great.

Receiving the cases in the mail

I was so excited to receive my 3 phone cases and frame in the mail from Kroma! It honestly did not take long at all, and I absolutely love all the styles that I chose. If you beauts now me well enough I absolutely love my bows and ribbon designs.  There were so many beautiful and gorgeous designs to chose from on their website such as different classic prints floral textures, folk flavors, and ribbons and bows.  You get to chose what type of phone you have and the design you wish to purchase. The first design that I chose is called, “Eighty-Eight” which reminds me of a corset for your phone, absolutely adorable. You also get to choose what colour frame you want for your phone as well. I went with classic black for all of my backplates. This retails for, $40.00 with the frame included.

( so adorable, I can’t even deal)

The other case that I received from Kroma was this gorgeous bow case, which is honestly my favourite out of the bunch.  I love the two slouchy bows, I currently have this one on my phone at the moment and I am just loving it.  Again, I chose the black frame, and this retails for $40.00.  Just look how adorable this is. This one is called, “Sylphina Angel”.

The last one I have to show you beauts reminds me of the Spring which I adore. I love happy and cheerful cases, they literally brighten up your day, especially on Mondays that’s for sure! This case is called the ” Tulle”, and I think it is absolutely stunning. There were so many floral designs to chose from which was great, but this one stood out to me the most. Again this retails for $40.00 including the backplate and frame. If you just want the backplate that retails for $15.00.

(so happy and cheery and colourful, I absolutely love it)

I want to personally take the time to thank Kroma for allowing me to collaborate with their company and work with them, I absolutely am in love with my phone cases and can honestly say these are the most stylish cases I have ever owned for my phone. It was a pleasure working with your company, you guys are wonderful people, and I highly recommend checking out their Instagram page over at “getkroma”, come spread some love over there! Literally, you will spend like an hour like I did creeping all the different designs for phone cases, there was a crap ton and I loved every second of it.  Also be sure to head on over to my homepage and follow my other social media accounts for more blog posts to come in the near future.

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My Personal Tinder/Bumble Horror Stories

We’ve all been there, well most of us anyways, have been on some sort of dating site in the past. I recently have been single now for about maybe more than like 7 months or 8 months, to be honest, I completely forget, but it’s been a little while now. I have to say going on these dating sites has really opened my eyes, both in a good and bad way. Don’t get me wrong, I have met some really nice people on these sites for sure, some really down to earth and friendly guys, who are serious about finding relationships. But if I had written a blog post about all the wonderful men I have met, then well… it wouldn’t be too interesting and I would have left out all the weird, freaky and gross online dating stories for you beauts.  So a little bit of background information, I have been on two dating sites for the past couple of months now. I have been on Tinder, which everyone knows what the hell it is, and secondly, I have been on Bumble which is a newer site to me that I have just recently been on. My friend recommended me to try out this site and give it a go. The only difference about this site is the girl has to speak to the guy first when they match. This really didn’t bother me that much, I am used to usually speaking first to the guy, that is no biggie. So I decided to give these two sites a go. I can honestly say I have been on a handful of dates, and I think when you are single it’s good to get out there and see what you want in a guy, I find nothing wrong with that whatsoever.   For the purpose of this blog, I am of course going to leave names out of this, for respect and confidentiality ( I am not that mean of a person).   So shall we get started with some of my horror stories when it comes to Tinder and Bumble experiences that I have had?

First, I had gone on a date with this guy that I started talking to on bumble. He seemed like a really funny guy, and if you have a good sense of humour that usually attracts me a bunch. This guy seemed super nice and down to earth as well, so we have been talking for a bit now and finally decided to go on a date.  When we were trying to make the plans, I go a bit of a red flag because he suggested we hang out on a Friday night and just relax and stay in. If you beauts know me, I like to be wined and dined that’s for sure. Like this is your first impression and you wanted to just stay in on the beginning of the weekend and chat? ( I was not down for this). So me being bold, I decided to speak up and suggest going for a drink ( buddy… it’s a Friday night, I am only young once). So he agreed, and he came and picked me up and we were on our way to a pub to sit down and have a drink. So everything was going good, I decided to be a badass and order a double rum and coke, just because it was Friday. We were chatting away, but I knew right away that there was a no connection whatsoever, but I was trying to enjoy myself. So about halfway through he randomly stops talking. I thought maybe he just was nervous so I gave him the benefit of the doubt and let him gather his thoughts for a few minutes because sometimes I run out of things to talk about sometimes. After about 5 minutes went by I knew something was up and things started getting really awkward. It literally looked like we were just sipping on drinks and looking around (just picture it now, super awkward).  SO the waitress is coming by constantly, and now I am starting to pound back the double rum and cokes ( usually like to keep it classy on dates, but at this point, I needed to be drunk because it was painful). I am not one to watch sports that often by the way, and it got so awkward I started to watch basketball on the televisions at the bar. He finally perked up and actually asked, “So you really like basketball eh?“. I was trying so hard not to laugh, and I was literally thinking, “oh my goodness please take me home“. Finally, after about 2 hours, I finally said, “well did you want to head out?!”, and he states, “I mean if you want to we can?”, I am like, “okay, let’s do this”.  Overall he was a nice guy and everything but like talk to me, I don’t bite! Let’s just say most awkward date I have been on ever.

The next Bumble story I have for you guys is about my personal “stalker” to say the least. This guy is a keeper.  So I matched with him on Bumble a while back, a good looking guy full of tats and had a nose piercing (something about nose piercings on a guy get’s me going).  So we had literally matched around 8 pm at night one night, and that same night he asked me to hang out. Usually,  I do not hang out with someone on the same night but I literally had nothing I was doing so I thought, “hey why the hell not?“. So keep this in mind, we literally had no set time we were going to meet at, I told him I lived in Hamilton and he was from another city. I did not mention my address yet, but he was going to come and pick me up. So I had mentioned that I needed to get ready still but I would message him when I am done. So I finally finished getting ready and he proceeds to say to me, “make sure you wear something slutty!”, with a happy face. I could not believe this guy, I literally called him out and replied, ” you do know you are not getting anything tonight right”? He then states, ” well you never know what could happen“. I was so furious and that was so disrespectful to say to a girl, like come on man. So I then blocked and deleted his number because clearly this guy only had one thing on his mind and that was it. I felt like I did not need to give him any explanation as to why I did that cause well… he was a pig to say the least.  Two hours went by and I randomly start getting about 4 calls from this random number, and texts from it. I was literally thinking, “ what the f***?!“.  I start reading the messages and it was the guy who I was supposed to meet up with! He was literally reaming me a new one saying how I stood him up, how he drove all the way to Hamilton to come see me, and that I wouldn’t answer the phone (keep in mind this guy has no idea where I live okay), and he was so ticked at me, and could not believe how disrespectful I was. I was blown away. How disrespectful I was?!Are you kidding me!? I was so thrown off, I blocked and deleted that number as well. A few days pass now and I get a message on Instagram from this random account, keep in mind he did not have any social media accounts whatsoever. This guy, that same stalker guy, makes an Instagram account to message me on there and start reaming me out on there now! This guy has balls I tell you. I could not believe it. He was SO MAD beauts, and I could not emphasize that enough. So doing what I do best, I blocked and deleted him on there as well. I never gave this guy the satisfaction he wanted and replied to him, I just deleted him out of my life.  SO that was my stalker story, this guy was a little too intense for my liking, but hey… you brought this upon yourself bud.

These next few stories are a little bit shorter in length but they are ones that I had to include for sure. I have had some real keepers on these sites, some are just like literally, “what the f***”, so be prepared! This next one, I was chatting with a guy on Bumble, and he seemed again friendly, good-looking, maybe looked a little bit cocky but I thought I would see where it went. So he was from another city and wanted to hang out, so we were deciding on what to do when we hung out. He wanted to keep it simple and come over with a bottle of wine ( we all know what he is thinking), I like to go out in public to go out for dinner or grab some drinks. He then proceeds to say this beauty of a line, ” so when are we banging out, I mean * hanging out”, with a winky face. Bye Felicia. You can go “bang out” somewhere else, LMFAO. I was so disgusted I actually burst out laughing. Does this guy really get anywhere with these cheesy pickup lines? So that was banging out boy, and I still can’t believe how forward guys can be on these sites, but I mean,  it is Tinder and Bumble we are talking about here. It just frustrates me because maybe some girls, like myself, are actually looking to meet someone to potentially be in a relationship with them.

This next story always makes me laugh and I swear to god I felt so dumb for even swiping right for this guy. So I found this guy on Tinder this time, and we were chatting away, good-looking man. So he had a unicorn emoji in his bio and I honest to god did not think anything of it whatsoever. I thought maybe he just likes unicorns or is completely random one of the two. So he then proceeds to ask me, “did you see the unicorn in my bio?“, I’m like, “Yes, why?”. He then asks, “do you know what that means?”, being dumb I was literally like, “that you like unicorns?“, he was like, “no no no“. He then goes on to tell me that he and his girlfriend are looking for a third, and they wanted to know if I ever considered doing that. That honestly is not my thing, and I have nothing against people that are into those sort of things, but it’s just not for me. So now I know what a unicorn is and stay far away from people who have those in their bio. Honest to god, I felt like the biggest idiot, and I am pretty sure I am the only one who did not know about that kind of thing, I was so confused.

The next one is a classic, literally the classic “he stood me up stories“. Yes, yes I have been stood up twice, and it is not the nicest most lovely feeling in the world, to say the least. I have made plans with people, they knew my address and completely never showed, so you get those lovely bunch of people as well, which is amazing…not. I just do the simple block and delete, like why give them a second chance, f*** that crap, I don’t have time for that.  Assholes. Some guy literally asked me to be his valentine , like buddy, how you going to be my valentine if you can’t show up for a first date?! Keep dreaming .

The best one is when you go on a date with someone who looks absolutely nothing like their picture, that is super fun. It really sucks trying to hide your disappointment when you meet them in their car, it’s so hard I can not even emphasize it enough! Like, please, update your pictures, or at least look a bit like them and not surprise the hell out of someone when you meet them. That blows.

I can not forget about the instant dick pics, those are quite lovely as well. Literally asking a guy how his day is going then BAM, ” here’s my dick”, like alright , cool. I didn’t ask for that nor do I really care. Can we just have a normal conversation, k thanks, you can put Princess Sophia away now.

I can honestly say finding your husband on these sites is almost near to impossible but I congratulate the couples who did find each other on these sites, you found rare beautiful people! I can clearly say I have been on a shit ton of dates, and a lot have been kinda crappy but some have been pretty good. I think this is such a learning experience being on these sites, and I don’t think it’s a bad thing to go on lots of dates, hell you are single AF you do what you want to do. I am single AF I am going to do what I want to do and that is that. But these sites I find are full of the most random people I have ever met, and sometimes I do get a good laugh from them.  So three things to take away from this blog post today:

  1. you are a bad ass b**** and deserve the best.
  2. thank you to the individuals who were apart of these wonderful stories
  3. I am sorry you got stuck with a blogger who loves to blog about everything… surprise!

I hope you beauts enjoyed this more amusing blog post that I came up with from my personal dating stories on these two glorious sites. Be sure to subscribe to my channel if you have not already and follow my other social media sites located on my main page! Take care and much love xo.

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My Collaboration with “11ElevenClothingCo”!

Good morning my beauts, I hope you all are having a wonderful weekend so far and are enjoying it! I have been still trying to get over my sickness and just take it easy this weekend aside from a few drinks and a party on Friday.… Hey…. I mean, it is the weekend right?! What kind of things have you beauts gotten yourself up to? I have been just blogging away and what not, doing my thing and getting in my zone! I have missed blogging a crap ton and forgot what it felt like to be just chilling infront of my computer and just typing away, letting my thoughts run freely and just letting them fly on the page. I love expressing myself on here and this is like my own personal diary, I love how open I can be with you beauts, and just say whatever is on my mind, it is refreshing and I absolutely love it. I have recently worked with a beautiful company that I came across on Instagram called, “11ElevenClothing Co”.  I absolutely loved their page, it was very neutral but completely caught my attention right away. I fell in love with the clothing line and the pieces that were involved in it.  Also what caught my attention from their page was the bio description of the clothing brand. The bio states, “You are the creator of your own story. Live life with positive vibes, intention & purpose“. I absolutely love this, I think that is a beautiful saying and admire it a lot. I really do think others besides myself, would be extremely attracted to this description. I was super excited when Amanda reached back out to me and was down to do a collaboration with me on a blog post to review some of her products and model them.  Amanda was such a sweetheart and was such a beautiful person to speak to. When I launch my clothing line one day, I want to be as friendly and down to earth when speaking to customers, I admire her personality a lot! I received my package in the mail and was so thrilled to see what she had sent me. Again, you guys know me with my personalized cards, sometimes I even get more excited reading it than the products! I just love how personal they are and they truly make you feel good when reading them! I absolutely loved the card it was so beautiful! I will insert a picture of it for you beauts to see for yourself!

While reading the card, it was so thoughtful and cute, thanks Amanda! It was a very positive card and you can tell Amanda is all about spreading those positive vibes as well! Which is what I adore. I was then greeted by two beautiful shirts which I adore a ton. The material on the shirts is amazing, they are both super comfy and I would wear them anywhere whether it be my outfit of the day or even to the gym!  The first shirt that I am going to show for you beauts is called the “Wonder & Wander Women’s Scoop Muscle Tank” which retails for $24.95. I absolutely love this shirt, and it is super comfy!

I really do love this shirt, I think it is absolutely adorable. I also really love the second shirt that I received in the mail which is called the “Nomad Women’s Flowy Racerback Tank“, which retails for $24.95 as well. I really love the material of this shirt as well, it’s super cute and fashionable.

I want to take the time to personally thank Amanda for allowing me to collaborate with her and her company on this blog post. I had an absolute blast typing this post up and modelling the shirts. I absolutely love my two shirts and wear them all the time everywhere I go. Be sure to come spread some love on her Instagram page over at “@11elevenclothingco“. Also be sure to use my discount code for 10% off your entire purchase, simply use “good vibes” over at the checkout! Make sure you are following my other social media accounts for upcoming blogs in the near future! Take care and much love xo.

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My Collaboration with Conscious Community Wear!

Hey, beauts, how are you guys, and how have you been?! I know I know, I have been mia and literally dropped off the face of the earth. I have been sick for the past month with the lovely flu, which has been crappy, so I have been trying to recover to say the last. I even stopped going to the gym because I had zero energy which feels so terrible. But, thank goodness I am finally starting to feel better and I am getting back on track with my blogging and so forth. I am still doing collaborations with different companies and have some exciting ones in store for you guys which is super exciting and I can not wait to share these companies with you beauts, such wonderful people. One company that I have been in touch with and speaking to is called, “Conscious Community Wear”, and they have been absolutely wonderful to work with. I spoke to Kevin about his company and I absolutely loved his clothing line. What really caught my attention about this Instagram page was the meaning of the clothing line, which was promoting love and positivity in a new way of thinking, meaning thinking and being free. I absolutely love this. You beauts know that I am all about spreading positive vibes and good vibes all around on my page. I think that there needs to be more positivity spread throughout the world which is exactly why I created my blogging channel in the first place. Speaking to Kevin, he was very sweet and a very down to earth person. Right away he complimented me on my blogging channel and fashion sense which was extremely sweet of him. He stayed in contact with me, letting me know when I would receive my package in the mail and so forth. I absolutely love companies who keep you updated and stay in touch with you, it’s extremely helpful and I admire that.

There were a couple of shirts that I absolutely adored within his clothing line of “Conscious Community Wear”, and that’s why I knew I had to reach out to him. I was s happy when Kevin agreed to collaborate with me on a blog post and was super excited when I received my package in the mail. Kevin was super generous and sent me 3 shirts which I absolutely adore. I know you beauts are dying to know a little bit about the company and what not so I’ll share some background information with you guys. The company was established in 2016, and consist of a group of young entrepreneurs whose duty is to help shed some light in a world that seems full of darkness. I love this. Personally, I could not think of a better company I would like to represent and show off to you beauts. The company has dedicated their lives to help the positivity of humanity combat the negativity.   So now that you beauts have a little more insight into the company I have been working with, let’s show off some of their beautiful t-shirts and designs for you guys!

The first shirt that I received I immediately fell in love with right away. I absolutely love cropped shirts and sweaters, I think they are extremely fashionable and they are super cute to wear. I received my “Free State Cropped” sweater which retails for $27.00. I got mine in the colour black, and always wear mine with a pair of leggings, which is super comfortable.  I think this top is super flattering and I love the message it is spreading as well. This sweater is super soft… you beauts need to get your hands on it for sure!

(How adorable is this though!?)

The next shirt that I received in my package I am a huge fan of! I love the message it is spreading across the word, pretty much-promoting love and not hate in the world, which is beautiful. This “No Hate Tee”, retails for $20.00 which is a great deal, and I just simply paired it with some ripped jeans and tied a knot in the shirt with my hat. I think there are so many different ways to style this shirt and I absolutely love it. For sure going to be wearing this a ton!

Lastly, I had one more top in my package and it is called the “Kaep Tee” which retails for $19.00 which was great. Not going to lie I had no idea who this person was, until my friend informed me about him! Hey, learn something new every day! I love this Tee, I think the design is neat and I really do love it a bunch!

Again, just simply paired it with my ripped faded jeans, a dad hat, and tied a knot in the shirt to style it.

I want to personally thank Kevin and his company “Conscious Community Wear” for allowing me to collaborate with them on this blog post. You guys are such amazing and sweet people, I really do believe there need to be more upbeat and positive people in this world like yourselves! Keep up the great work with your company, you guys are doing fantastic and I absolutely love your clothing line. Be sure to come spread some love on their Instagram page over at “@consciouscommunitywear”, and give them a follow! Also be sure to follow my other social media accounts located on my homepage for more blogs in the near future! Take care and much love xo.

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Mental Health Update; Chit Chat with me focusing on Social Anxiety

Hey my beauts, I hope you are all doing well! I have been doing really well lately in terms of my blogging channel/collaborations and also… shh… launching a clothing line that will be launched soon when details are discussed and finalized with my stepbrother, go follow him on Instagram at @nateslofstra! Unfortunately, I can not share too many details of this clothing line with you beauts yet, but do not worry! There will be a blog on it coming in the near future for sure! I am super excited to be given this opportunity and can not wait to share more details with you beauts!  So it has been a while since I have done a chit chat with me post on my mental health and given you beauts an update! So my anxiety has been better under control ever since starting my new job, I think it is for sure a more relaxed atmosphere, to say the least, which helps me calm down a lot. One thing that I have noticed that has started to peek up again was my Social Anxiety, unfortunately. One thing I am proud of for myself is that I noticed this right away. I have been very anxious lately when it comes to social events some things may include my eye contact is very limited when speaking to people, I get nervous in big crowds or at parties; again if I am sober this is more evident. I also just get nervous when it comes to just small talk conversations, this really gets me anxious for some odd reason. If you beauts have been keeping up to date in the past following my social anxiety journey, you are familiar that these certain things have been making me nervous over the years. Some of these things in the past include:

  1. talk with individuals one- on- one
  2. maintain eye contact
  3. manage anxious thoughts about what people think of me
  4. tolerating criticism
  5. express more in a job interview
  6. go to a party sober
  7. call people on the phone
  8. return an item to a store
  9. ask someone for help

So as you can see, there were a lot of social situations that would make me feel uneasy and anxious at times, and that is okay. A little recap for you beauts who were not following my social anxiety journey in the past. I attended a social anxiety group every Wednesday for 8 weeks which was two hours long in length. Basically, we worked out of a workbook and did different exposures to help manage and face our fears when it came to social anxiety. I absolutely loved this group, after the 8 weeks, I felt like a completely new person who was exceeding in life day by day. I literally felt on top of the world, that nothing could get in my way. I have to admit, the exposures and facing them head on were not an easy process, but I can proudly check off some things I have mastered on my list which is a great feeling!  I can now pick up the phone, make appointments, order a pizza or just have a simple conversation which in the past, made me super nervous and uncomfortable.  I am now able to speak on the phone with little to no nerves which is a huge step for me!  Another thing that I can cross off my list is that I can return an item to a store and usually ask for help depending on the situation! So there are a few things on my list that I can proudly cross off.  There are however things still on my list that I need a little bit of help with still. One of the biggest things for me would be maintaining eye contact and having one-on-one conversations. I do not know what it is about these but I just feel so uncomfortable!

I made an appointment with my therapist and told her some of the social situations that still made me feel uncomfortable and she recommended right away that I go back to my social anxiety group meetings again. I really liked this idea! I think that sometimes we forget how to manage our anxiety for some situations and it’s okay to get that reminder for sure! I need that extra help again, and I want to work and better myself for 2018 as this is my year. So beauts, I am signed up again for the Social Anxiety Group which will be starting in April of this year. This will be a 9-week program for those who experience a lot of fear and discomfort about social situations. Often this leads to avoidance of certain situations and I did not want that whatsoever. I want to be able to live life to it’s fullest without fearing every social interaction I have. So this will be held every Monday starting in April. I hope to be able to cross more things off of my list for sure which would be fantastic and rewarding.  I will be posting blog posts for every meeting held like I did in the past to help you beauts see the progress and to allow myself to see the progress I am making as well.  I hope these updates will help at least one person who may be suffering like I am. I can not wait to start this journey and process with you beauts again, and keep you up to date!

Remember, 2018 is your year to shine. Take control of it. Notice how you are feeling, and don’t push aside emotions. If you are struggling acknowledge it, and fight it. You are a fighter, and if a quiet shy girl like myself can do it, you can do it as well. You are never alone. Have a great rest of your week! Take care.

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“Crafts by Em”, Interview with Emily Jones

Goodmorning my beauts, and welcome to my channel if you are new! I am so fortunate and blessed you decided to stop by and take a peek at my blogging channel and blog post! I have been back on track with my blog posts recently and have so much planned for you guys for 2018, I am so excited! I have particularly been super excited about this blog post in particular, as it is one of my closest family members and friends to me. I had the absolute privilege and opportunity to write a blog post and interview my cousin, Emily Jones, who is such a beautiful soul inside and out. Emily is 17 years old, grade 12, and has a passion for making crafts from her small business she created called, “Crafts by Em“.  She has been making crafts since a young age as she loves to be creative and design her own things. However, Emily just recently began making crafts to sell and has begun to take them more seriously. She officially began making her crafts last year. That is so amazing Emily, I am beyond proud of you for starting up your own business and doing what you love.  I have always said, ” just do it and start it“, you never get anywhere if you don’t start and just try it. I am super glad you decided to just go for it. That’s amazing.

I was very curious as to what inspired Emily to start doing her crafts and create her small business. Emily explains, “Well ever since I was young my mom always encouraged me to design my own things and pursue what I enjoyed most- which was making crafts. However, when I moved into my dads and his wife house the crafting and creativity came to a halt. A series of events took place at the end of the year of 2016, which resulted in me and my dad moving into a new home, and a new, fresh, healthy environment. I took this as an opportunity to start a new chapter in my life and start either old or new hobbies once again- and that’s when going on the app Pinterest became a daily routine just looking for basic crafts that I could redesign and make my own”.  Gotta love Pinterest! I absolutely love Pinterest when it comes to new designs and new inspirations. The site is absolutely wonderful and is full of so many ideas to recreate.

What kind of crafts do you sell Emily?I sell a wide variety of crafts, and I continue to look for new things I can make ! My crafts include; cute, decorative clothes-peg picture hangers, jean mug coasters, self-drawn and designed porcelain mugs, self-drawn/designed mugs with handmade candles as well as  handmade candles in mugs that I did not design myself and in small mason jar containers, mason jar night-light, plaid coasters, self-drawn/designed glass containers for eye-make remover pads, self-made/designed bead keychains. What I find unique about my crafts is that I customize any one of my products”.  I absolutely love all the crafts that Emily sells and creates, they are amazing. She is one talented lady and is super creative in that department. It must take so much patience to create and make these crafts, something that I don’t have to kudos to you Em! You go Glencoco!

Since Emily makes a ton of different crafts, I was curious as to which one was her absolute favourite to make! Emily explains that she enjoys making all of her crafts,  but if she had to choose it would be her homemade candles in mugs or other unique that she finds. I do not blame her one bit! I would for sure have to say that these are one of my favourites as well, as they are absolutely adorable and you guys know me with my candles! I can’t get enough of them! I also began to ask Emily where she saw herself 5 years from now later on down the road. Emily states, “with my crafts, in 5 years I see my continuing with my tiny business. Whether I sell them or I give them away as gifts, crafting is my most favourite hobbies and is very therapeutic for me. However, in 5 years I plan to be in university so my crafting may be a tad procrastinated due to how busy I may be, but I don’t see myself ever stopping”.  That is honestly such dedication and I truly believe in you, Emily! I know you can do it if you set your mind and heart to it. You have a bright future ahead of you and I know great things are headed your way!

What are your short and long term goals for now? “My short-term goals, for now, are to continue to find new crafts to make that are unique and will get peoples attention. Another short-term goal would be to expand the popularity of “Crafts By Em” as I want to sell and make as many crafts as I can. Long-term goals would include working towards continuing my crafts because I don’t want to stop it as I have previously mentioned it’s threnodic for me”.  That’s amazing Emily, I know you will go far with your short and long-term goals. You are a very determined person and your business is going to expand for sure! I know for a fact that juggling school and work as well as maintaining a small business can be very difficult. I wanted to know just how Emily does it! Emily states, “ juggling grade 12 homework, as well as working 24 hours on average at my part-time job letting alone throwing crafts into the mix is very difficult. Which again brings up the point that crafting for me relieves stress, which is why I always manage to have time for crafting. I usually craft on weekend though as I’m able to stay up later, but unless I have a week that isn’t busy, I don’t craft during the school week”.  I know for a fact that leaving time and room for your “me-time” such as your hobby or passion is extremely important. I ALWAYS make time for my blogging as it relieves stress for me as well just like Emily with her crafts. I think in order to keep your sanity this is so important. I give kudos for Emily for finding a happy medium and balance in her life to manage all of these things every day.

I was very curious as to who taught Emily how to make her crafts, or if she was self-taught. Emily explains, “no one taught me how to make crafts, it’s just something I kind of picked up on my own. I get annoyed with following instructions so I make everything with my own twist… including food which doesn’t always turn out the best lol. I just use my best judgement to make my own crafts!!”.   That’s amazing Emily you are so creative and artistic!  I hear you on the following instructions part, that is not always my thing, as I do not have the patience hahaha!

“You will be exactly as happy as you decide to be.”

What is one quote you live by? “Despite the negative things in life, there is also something good out of a bad situation, and if the situation isn’t something that you want, then you change it”.  I absolutely love this, and honestly have never heard of this quote before but it makes perfect sense and is so accurate by far. I am going to be keeping this quote in my head for a long time as I find it so relatable and important to go by in life.

What is a piece of advice you would give to someone just starting out with a small business?  “A piece of advice I’d give to someone who is starting a small business is to know your audience- for example, when I started out my tiny business I thought I would have had more customers/supporters-family, friends or acquaintances. So don’t invest your money into something that won’t sell as I have put in at least a minimum over $300-$400 into my crafting”.  I completely agree with this 100%, and knowing your audience is so key! I have to know my audience with blogging as well.

I want to take the time to thank Emily for allowing me to interview her and her small company called, “Crafts by Em”. You can contact her through Facebook at Emily Jones and check out her crafts that she has made. You can also follow her on Instagram at “_jonesyy18_”, also on her craft page on Instagram at ” Crafts_byem_” so come spread some love on her pages! I love you to the moon and back Em and I know you are going to go far in life with your crafts and your small business.  I hope you beauts enjoyed this blog post, I have not done an interview for a while now so it was absolutely refreshing and I want to thank Emily again! Take care, xo.

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